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writes:me and my ex was together for 6 years i'm still madly in love i messed over her thru those years but we only 22 we was 16 when we got together i'm changed i told her this cried and all that and she want take me back she gotta new boyfriend they wasn't having sex at first now they are she says sex with me is so much better and she still calls me we been broke up for like 3 to 4 months can somebody give me some type of advice to get her back and also tell me what her calling me still me
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (16 November 2008):
 It sounds like she has made an attempt to get over you. She is still holding onto you for her own reasons and can't seem to quiet let go. The fact that she calls you is a statement that she either still likes/loves you or that she is keeping you close just in case the other realtionship doesn't work out. It's also possible that she just values the friendship and doesn't want to loose it.
If she's waited to have sex with the other guy perhaps she simply isn't the type to move on quickly. Yet again it could be a sign that she still cares for you and it didn't feel right in the beginning to move on in that aspect. (too much,too soon)There are times when someone will become more intimate in a relationship to help them get over an ex.
First of all I would suggest that you assess the relationship between the two of you. What caused the breakup? When you think about what happened and why, you can more clearly understand exactally why it ended. You admit that you *messed her over so of course she doesn't want that kind of relationship, no one does. Now you are really upset and *crying over her, crying caused by strong emotion, yet if you have been flipflopping around with her she might think your tears are FAKE. Common senario been there done that, always using the word Sorry and doing the same thing again and again.
Just the fact that she still calls can be a good thing. If she really loves you she isn't bound to forget it so soon. Indeed it might be the reason she is calling. Only time will tell. You have to give her time to heal from the hurts you can put her thru at least enough to get focus on what she wants and needs. You have to stop dong the things that have has caused her so much pain that she wants to get over you.
You need to work on *YOU! Train yourself to be different. Only you have control over YOU! When you do your best and show her that you have changed from the *messing overguy, just maybe she will give you another chance. You Won't be changing for her, you will be changing for YOU. If you have developed a pattern of messing women over, you aren't going to get far with many of them. It takes alot of WILLPOWER and SELF-CONTROL.
LEARN TO SETTLE DOWN AND DON'T MESS AROUND.:)
When it comes to LOVE... Let your HEART do the REACHING and your CONSIENCE be your GUIDE.
God bless,
Blue_Angel
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