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My ex is my bestfriend, but he is my boyfriend too?

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Question - (22 April 2011) 0 Answers - (Newest, )
A female United States age 30-35, *azelbanana113 writes:

So my boyfriend broke up with me in December and over the past months the most we've not talked was the 2 weeks after our break up. I'm a senior in high school, I just turned 18. so those two weeks were because of our winter break.

January: He was treating me 50/50, like sometimes he acted like he still liked me, sometimes he didn't. But twards the end of the month I felt the need to talk to him because I felt he wanted me to say something to him about us so we could get back together.

He told me he was just 'remembering what it's like to be with me'.

All febuary he was treating me like a best friend.

March: I got a 75/25 feeling like he liked me so I asked him if he wanted to come over and chill. We are music geeks so I figured we'd play guitar and get close by that. He kept on saying he was 'unsure if it would feel right' since we broke up. Over the conversation we had I picked up on several things and I had then decided he was confused over his feelings for me.

He did eventually come over, and he was looking at me like I was everything to him. It was like we were together still. I didn't bring it up to him because I feel it makes him like be careful over how he is around me.

Since then we've been getting closer and closer. There just is a million things that I'm like " HELLO TELL ME YOU LIKE ME AGAIN!". Everyone agrees that he needs to get over this fear of admiting his feelings for me.

Yesterday I was with him for over 2 hours.

we have our 1st period together and lunch.

During class our seats were touching. Thats how close we were. I was flirting with him and he was positively responding. We were talking and laughing for the whole hour and a half. We touched a bit like high-fives and stuff. Ths doesnt really happen. Usually its a hug after that class, and he is the one to hug me. We never high-five or physically touch outside of that. He was looking at me like we were together and acting it. ALL the signs were there! ALL OF THEM! I guess thats where it's helpful that we dated before, because I know how he acts when he likes someone, and the way he's been treating me lately says that he likes me.

During lunch we were still talking a lot. I wanted to grab his hand really bad and kiss him. Our mutal best friend came over and sat down and I lean over and this happened:

" I really wanna kiss him right now"

" Do it"

"But I cant! What if he rejects me!"

" He wont. It's 420. Anything can happen on 420! You will kiss him and he will kiss you back I swear!"

" Alright."

so I turn around and go silent for 30 seconds trying to do it. I endup saying

" I really wanna kiss you right now"

he just got up and left. The bell rang seconds after this happened so it was an easy escape.

So a couple hours later I texted him.

"Did I do something?"

"Yeah, what you said."

"What did I say?"

"You wanted to kiss me... you know you cant say stuff like that to me!"

"_____ said you would of kissed me back"

"No. Why would she say that?"

"You tell me."

"........"

"Why "....."? It just makes me wonder...."

and then he just started a new conversation.

Now my friend who told me this, shes like " He doesnt like you" half the time whenever I bring it up. So, for her to say this to me has REALLY got me thinking. She is like his best friend and mine too so.

It's like he knows and everyone else knows he likes me, but he's created something phycological in his head that says it's not okay to tell me the truth about his feelings.

He does have a lot of family problems, but I've always been a stable rock in his life. When we were together we never fought or had an issue. It was a really great relationship that ended really for no reason in my mind.

What do I do from here?

Do I let it go or start to persue him?

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