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female
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41-50,
*allingtears75
writes:hi, I will try and make this not to long. I met my ex 6mths ago, we dated for about little over 3mths. things were perfect in the bigining, I really felt he was my soul mate, I still do in my heart. I have low self esteem and i was allways insecure and affraid when things got good, I ran from him, about 3times. he looks at it as dumping him but I don't just fear. anyways didnt take to long till I realized he had a drinking problem,which I couldn't do that, so he fell apart and said he would quit cause he couln;t live without me. we had some rough spots in between then I found out suddenly my father was sick and dying. I had 1 day with him then 4days later he died :( this broke me as I had not spoke to him in 3yrs do to a disagreement we had.I was really not in the right frame of mind hurting, got in a fight with the bf and said fine leave me leave me! so he did he dumped me 2weeks after my fathers death, I just completly crumbled. I got drunk one nite and said things I shouldnt of, they weren;t directed to him but he took it the wrong way. anyways for the past 3mths we have text back and forth, some good some bad. he says he loves me but not ready for a relashionship with me and never knows if he will be. says im not ment for anyone but him,asks if anyone is in his place,cuddling me,touching me.so confused,He had no problem having sex with me 2times in the past 2weeks. im confused, he allways says im with somone or have been with somone, I never have been, just allways said fine i will move on due to frustration and waiting for 3mths for him to come back. everyone tells me to move on but im so affraid to be without him, we had good times and I miss the man I met.
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reader, fi_the_tree  +, writes (15 February 2011):
 First things first, go and see a councellor to get to the root of your insecurities, and also help you deal with the death of your father. Try and think positive about things, i know it's hard, but try and do things to cheer yourself up like a pamper session, get the nail polish out and have a glass of wine, invite the girls round and all watch a film together if they can make it.
Take some time to clear your head. It hard to wait for something that might never happen, but it's even harder to let go of something that means so much to you...
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