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*aylani14
writes:I recently divorced after 13 years of marriage. My ex-husband was seeing someone, according to him they broke up. He tells me he is still in love with me, and has asked if we could be bed partners since he was not seeing anyone. He called me today asked me a bunchof questions if I would be unhappy if he went back to her, but as he says he still has feelings for me. He does not want to be exclusive, we have gone on a few dates, mainly he just wants to do him and make himself happy he says, but I need to know what your take is on the situation and what I should do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2009): Why don't you feel insulted? You deserve better than this my friend! I would've said go take care of yourself and hung up on him.
You deserve the love and affection of a real man. A man that only wants you and to be with you. Don't settle for him using you. ug!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2009): sex with this ex is a no no. he is just using you, he was cheating on you with her in the first place. he wants both - if not with her then with you. i am sure you still have feelings for him but he is an ass**le. Do you have to see him/ keep in contact with him. cut off ties if you can. and try to find someone decent who will not mess with you. your ex is not finished with his lover, he is just playing you. he lef you for this person, now wants to cheat on her with you. What a piece of CRAP.tell him to bugger off, you have self respect for yourself and that you would NEVER have sex with him again. (even if you are tempted). You will be emotionally hurt all over agin. do not let him disrespect you anymore. (naughty streak in me - 1.you can get even with him by telling his lover that he wants some with you, then let's see how he wangles out of that situation)(2. tell him that he wasn't a good lover anyway, you did not even achieve an orgasm with him. Tell him you are now looking for a LOVER THAT WILL SATISFY YOU, AND WHO WILL SHOW YOU WHAT REAL SEX/LOVE IS, AND NOT SOMEONE WHO FINISHES SO QUICKLY. haha ha ha)In the meanwhile, while you go through the initial process after the divorce, spend more time on yourself, be attractive, do your hair, use makeup, meet new friends, get a hobby, go dancing. Put the spring back in your step and believe that one day you will find love again. Let him see what he has lost and BOy oh boy did he loose.
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reader, tux +, writes (17 March 2009):
 I would say that you should not give in or see him on a dating level. IMO, he is looking for a BOOTY CALL and that is it. He wants to satisfy his needs and is only appearing to try to fill your needs to fill his. How long will it be before he runs off with another girl and be with her exclusively to leave you alone until he is single again and looking for another booty call?
If he's not looking for an exclusive relationship with you and only wants to bed with you, RUN AWAY!
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