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writes:My ex hit me. He put me down, told me I was fat and ugly and now this is affecting how I am with my new boyfriend. I have been with my current bf for a year. If he moves too quickly I flinch, if he shouts I get scared, and I'm always asking him if I'm fat and if he wants to be with me. If I keep this up I'm going to lose him. The other week he got very very angry and grabbed me and pushed me up against a wall. I has=d a very big bruise on my arm that was there for over a week. I know he didn't mean to do it and it was party my fault because of the things I was saying. Can anyone give me any advice, I don't want to lose him because of what my ex done.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2008): Get away from this guy. It sounds like you could use some time working on your self esteem. Maybe being in a relationship isn't a good thing for you right now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2008): Why did this dude push you up against a wall? Your exes behaviour should not overshadow anyone else but this dude you're with now doesn't sound like a saint. You have to be strong and stop asking - the more confident you appear to be, the more people will respect you and know you are not to be messed with. If you keep up the visible insecurity then it may lead people to think you are a pushover. Have some confidence - your ex just wanted someone to pick on. This may have weakened you but don't let it show because if you do people might take advantage of you. Show strength and confidence then people will show you more respect than they do now, and the more they do this, the more your self esteem will grow too =]
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