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writes:Hello everyone.Heres my situation and im going to keep it very very short and to the point...my ex, his new interest and his friend have been giving me a really hard time for the past few months and I need some help to cope with it all.Ok so my ex and me split up over 3 months ago. He initiated the breakup and I didnt take it so well. He kept on flirting with me and giving me false hopes we would get back together again since and Ive been a fool to even listen or take notice of it all.Ok well he started taking an interest in another girl after 2 months and that really upset me, then he asked her out after 2 weeks. And that really really upset me. I found out though she said no. I was half glad even though that is very heartless off me but also I was a lil bit dissapointed coz I thought if they went out I could call that a total closure and I could really start moving on. But anyways she said no and went back to her ex. But ever since then she has disliked me. My ex has been seeing her more than me and Ive been trying to keep our friendship still going, but there both making it harder for me to do that. Also my exs friend who is also my friend keeps on telling me about whats going on with them two, where they go, when they see eah other and etc. Ive told him to stop but he never does. I decided to just give up on them and ignore them as much as possible. Its been ok i guess so far, but...today i Started off really happy thinking of a new life Ill be having and the possibiites I could have.Later that day I went to college for my Bridging day for my second year....and to my absolute horror...my exes interest is a new member of my class. She was staring at me, scowling all day and following me and the fact that now my ex is going to be in my room all the time with her as he goes to college too i wont be able to avoid them.I need help as to how im going to cope.Thanksxxx
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reader, lianne x  +, writes (1 July 2008):
 oh my god thats a really hard one ?
first of all his friend that is your friend, get rid, as much as you guys may get on, just cut it off, explain to him that if hes going to constanly update you about them, that your friendship will not work.
the college problem, id suggest seeing if you can transfer? though it should not be you that has to move ....
possibly you could speak to your tutor, get a bit of advice for during lessons....?
im sorry im not much help ...
good luck though and let me know how you get on :D
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reader, softballplaya  +, writes (1 July 2008):
 hey girl.
wow thats alot to have on your mind, I totally understand you. Your asking how to cope right? well when I went through a much much similar thing I talked to my friends alot more, went and did stuff for myself, enjoyed life without being tied down to some guy ya know. You in college, the way this girl is acting is petty and ignorant. Tell her that you dont care about them and she needs to stop with the drama. I'm just going by what I would do. If your exes friend keeps pestering you with information about them, then simply ignore him or act interested...hes only messing with you to get a reaction and because he knows you hate it. If you act like it dosent even bother you or you actually wanna kno then he will stop immeadiately. It will be hard to fake that your interested but in the long run it will be worth it. What I would do is get out there and enjoy yourself or find someone else. Obviously this jerk wasnt good enough for you and you can do better! The girl whom he is now interested in shouldnt be giving you a hard time, this puzzles me. If you didnt do anything then its not her place to be ragging on you. Anyways girl keep your head high and dont let this petty stuff stop you from enjoying life. I know how you feel so if you need anything or juss need to talk I'm here=]
take care && good luck ,Kalynn
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