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My ex has threatened to beat me up!

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Question - (23 April 2009) 5 Answers - (Newest, 23 April 2009)
A female United Kingdom age 26-29, *OLisBORING writes:

I have a massive problem!! My ex-boyfriend Jack has threatened to beat me up just because I added his present girlfriend on Facebook. But I also know that he is cheating on this girl. This girl, let's call her Shelby, has told Jack that I've said all this rubbish about how he bunks off, drinks alcohol excessively, and loads of other stuff like that. But I swear I never said it. So now I've got "400" people after me because I "said" it. I need some advice before she makes up more rubbish and my health is risk. Should I tell her and get beaten up? Or just sit there and let her make more stuff up? I don't know what to do.

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A female reader, pebble United Kingdom +, writes (23 April 2009):

pebble agony auntDelete them both and move on with your life. You and him are broken up, his relationship/girlfriend aren't really any of your business now. Make sure your facebook is set to friends only and don't talk to them again.

And if he does manage to threaten you again, then save it, print it and show it to someone you feel can help you (and that doesn't mean someone who will beat HIM up ;) ).

Good luck moving on from this idiot.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States +, writes (23 April 2009):

Honeypie agony auntI agree that you need to save and print out whatever was "said" on Facebook. Both what you said, she said and he said.

Then you need to delete her and him of your Facebook.

Then you need to talk to your parents. If needed be you might have to get a restraining order against him.

PS. Talking shit about others on the Web will come back and bite you in the ass. Even when it's the truth. If he is cheating on his current GF there isn't much you can do. Evenutally she will find out. You can not save her from that heart ache. I wanna bet you are the last person she would believe anyways.

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A female reader, jessica04 United States +, writes (23 April 2009):

jessica04 agony auntFirst off, you should have never added her as a friend on facebook. She isn't one. She is your exe's new girlfriend, and it sounds like you and him did not end on good terms.

If you have any written documentation of his threats or her slandering, print it out and take it to your local authorites. You need to do this so that if things get out of hand the law will already be on your side. Tell the police everything your ex said about threatening to beat you up. He might even be summoned to court, which would be a good way to nip this in the bud and send the message home that you CAN'T be bullied by him, and that he had better not try anything.

Lay low for a while. Who cares what they think about you? those who really know you will stick by your side. Don't worry about clearing your name against the allegations of an abusive ex and his new psycho GF.

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A female reader, Midge United Kingdom +, writes (23 April 2009):

Midge agony auntIf you are on facebook you can print off the dialog between you and this Shelby. Take a copy of it to him and tell him that that is all the contact that you have had with her, or better yet, take him to the nearest computer and log onto facebook with him there, and show him what contact you have had with this Shelby.

Surely if the idiot can see what has been said between the two of you, he should back off!

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A female reader, Honeygirl South Africa +, writes (23 April 2009):

Honeygirl agony auntFirst, delete her off your facebook! If he lays a hand on you for whatever reason, you go to the police and lay a charge of assault against him. His current girlfriend sounds like a nasty piece of work, the two of them deserve each other.

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