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writes:My ex and I, let's just say we were about equal in looks. I'm introverted (most of the time), and she likes extroverts. She got a new BF that is very socially confident, outgoing, charming, taller, and probably intelligent. Hands down, better than me. How am I supposed to get a GF of equal looks, knowing that she would rather be with a guy like the above? Of course, there's some girl out there who would truly want me, but wouldn't that be like finding a needle in a haystack?
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reader, Advice_man  +, writes (24 December 2009):
 Hey you don't have to find someone with equal looks to be as happy. You might meet someone who has a little less looks than your ex but a very charming, exciting personality and you end up having even better time with her. And also it doesn't necessarily means that your ex is happier with her current boyfriend. Often, these kind of guys who are blessed to have everything (looks, confidence, intelligence, etc.) are cocky and arrogant and any woman they have is never good enough for them. Just try to forget her, let her go and move on. Best of luck!
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (24 December 2009):
 You're only looking at some attributes about your ex's new bf, which is hardly a basis to decide he is 'hands down' better than you. Nor a basis to be deciding upon a new mate. I can understand that teens go for each other on fickle and transient things such as appearance, but whilst I wont lie and say it is not always some small part of being attracted to another initially, at your age, most women are mature enough to be looking for more than what is on the surface. Like personality, integrity, loyalty, consideration, etc, etc, ... and the more a guy ranks in these departments, the less the physical attributes come in to play. Wouldn't you rather a mental and emotional connection that is lasting than going for purely for an appearance that will fade? If not, you may just end up a lonely old man.
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