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*j2000la
writes:Ok so I have an ex-girlfriend, who is in her mid-20's and I am in my later 30's. We live 1,000 apart now. I was visiting the city she lives in and on her birthday we hooked up and then two days later we hooked up again. She wouldn't have sex with me either time nor would she go down on me... she only would only let me give her oral. I am sure she is giving other guys oral but I don't know that for fact. She said having sex with me is too emotional for her but yet she is dating several guys and having sex with one of them. We both love each other but again we live a 1,000 miles apart and we also had a bad break up. However when we do see each other the chemistry is there... any thoughts or ideas about my situation?
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reader, jj2000la +, writes (26 May 2011):
jj2000la is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAgreed. Sex is sex... To be clear she did say she would probably date me again but honestly as much as I love and care for her i am not I treated in her that way right now.
Funny she just called me saying she was pissed off at me because I told her she should slow her roll and not date as many guys within a short period of time. She said she was hurt and felt like crying.
I basically said sorry for hurting your feelings and bye.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (26 May 2011):
 well "if we lived closer we would still be having sex" vs "if we lived closer we would still be dating/be a couple etc"
SEX... is just SEX
when I'm with a man I love we make love we don't have sex.
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reader, jj2000la +, writes (26 May 2011):
jj2000la is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the reply 'So Very Confused'....
I agree I am a booty call this time around. Again I know she is having sex with someone else because she told me. Anyway I am not sure when I will be moving back, depends on work but it could be by the end of the year.
However I go back all the time but its usually for 3-7 days at most. She did say to me that if I still lived there we would be having sex.. not sure what to make of that, in the sense she still cares about me or if she is just fn'ing with me. We did live together and I was very close to her and her family. But who knows.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2011): She's using you, sorry. I've been like that with guys I'm not that in to before, I just dont want to touch them or have sex with them but if they want to do things to me then what the hell?!
Find someone who treats you as an equal.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (26 May 2011):
yeah you're a booty call nothing more nothing less
she's seeing other guys
she won't sleep with you or go down on you but she lets you go down on her...
you are 1000 miles apart... is there a time frame for you two to be int he same city again anytime soon?
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