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writes:My ex of two years has started flirt with me stare at me and be very nice towards me. For several months she wouldnt even speak. I found out she was seeing someone else so i walked away.We work together and see each other perhaps once or twic a day. The other guy also works in the same building, but becuase of his position they kept it very quiet, and to be honest i was wasnt even sure it was still going on. I never asked or caused any trouble, though i wont deny it has been hard.I was under no illusions about getting back with her, though i do care as is demonstarted by me writing this question..My ex has been over friendly recently slightflirting, staring and generally nice to me as i say she didnt speak to me for months.I hav efound out she is still seeing the other guy so cant understand the shift in behaviour towards me.Can anyone explain this and how i should be with her ???
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2008): I think your ex girlfriend's flirting, could be simply, that she's playing around with you. Nothing more. If I were you, I wouldn't even go there with her, at least not until she's out of this other relationship, first.
You would know more about her character but some women (not all), like to exercise their feminine wiles and sexual power over another guy--sometimes any guy. It's a huge ego boost to them. If she's flirting with you, that is not too respectful to her current, attached boyfriend, is it. And you need to really read into these actions... that she is displaying. And my biigest concern is, her trustworthiness as a potential good, caring partner to you? I'm just saying, if she flirting with you and attached to someone else. Is that what you want in a female? If not, then I really don't think she's a good choice.
If you like her enough to overlook her less than admirable flirting behaviors, then my suggestion is: Wait until she is totally unattached to her current bf before you make any moves on her. But...you could be in for a long wait. Usually I have found that some women love to flirt while hiding behind the safe facade of a relationship with another person and the flirty actions with others, don't add up too much more. It doesn't go too far. proceed with caution. She could do this to you too...again. . But, in the meantime...this may be a long wait because I don't think she's that serious...so I suggest you find someone else to capture your interest, for now and don't make this into anything more. Actions do speak louder than words here...and her actions are not commendable if she's got another guy in her life. Take care and good luck.
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reader, luter1  +, writes (27 September 2008):
 in my oppinion you should ignore her, she just has a bad time with her bf, be as you don't care, and the most important don't go into the "friend zone" or if you are confident in your self you can risk and gain her back, of course if you want her, the thing that i don't know is what was the problem of your break up, it was your or her fault...if her, than ignore her now, if yours then win her back.
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