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writes: Hi, I posted a question about four months ago when I had just split up with my fiancee. We were due to get married in September but he could not handle the commitment and together with me being diagnosis at the time as have m.e we were both getting ill from the stress and pressure. He finished with me but said he still loved me and did not want to lose me but could not cope. Ever since then we have been in contact by text just making sure that each other is ok as friends nothing more. He said to me he does not want anyone else and would tell me if there was but wants to be single at moment. I do respect this but still feel like there is something there. I asked him if he wants to meet up and he said yeah sure but is really busy at moment which I understand as he is a cricket captain and is always busy in summer etc. Please could you give me some advice as to how to make him realise??
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reader, chickypea2005 +, writes (21 June 2005):
Be careful, he may only want you back if all else fails. I've had that before and in the end I thought screw him, if he isn't mature enough to commit then he isn't worth the bother, but you never mentioned how old you are. If your young then ask him if he just wants to spend more time with his friends and let him go away on holiday or something. Me and my current partner don't go away together at the moment and finds the time apart makes us love each other even more.But if I were you take this oportunity and get out, meet new people (that are on your wavelength), get in contact with the girls maybe go away for a break. Just think "is he worth waiting for?" XXX
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reader, jessknot +, writes (21 June 2005):
it sounds like he may not want to commit right now, he may want to see what else is out there,I would tell him everything you're feeling, if you want him right now tell him, if he has no response or doesn't want to get back together then there is little hope, honestly, (just my opinion), if he wasn't ready to marry you he's probably not ready for you at all.
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reader, cordy14 +, writes (21 June 2005):
Maybe you just need some time apart to make him realise how he really feels for you. My advise would be to give him some space but still keep in touch and go out as friends. If he loves you being apart will make him realise how much.
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