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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:hello.It's been about 7 weeks since my ex boyfriend broke up with me. we were together for over 4 years. he broke up with me after the stresses of life (working all the time, no money, lack of sleep etc) and we kept arguing so much, he couldn't take it anymore. he was extremely upset when we broke up. i accepted the break up as what else could i do? there was nothing i could do to convince him to take me back, he said so himself. i gave him a thank you letter for the wonderful 4 years we had together and apologised for all the pointless arguements. he said he would contact me in 2weeks to a month and that we would probably get back together in a few months. he never did contact me. a month passed, and i contacted him to see how he was and to talk about what happened. he said we were obviously 'done' but he said he has to be my friend otherwise it would just hurt so much. he sed it was too soon for him to talk about it. we met up just as friends on mutual ground. we talked about everything apart from the break up. he just wanted it to be chilled so i wasnt going to bring it up unless he did. it was fun, we hugged and went our seperate ways.but ever since then, he has just been ignoring me completely. we havent had closure. i want to talk to him about what happened so bad, to help me move on. he said he would write me a letter. that was two weeks ago and still no sign of a letter. i have just decided to leave it. i still have all his stuff and he knows it. i miss him so much! i feel like i have done something wrong. he was desperate to be friends with me but still hasnt made the effort. do u think he misses me? is it too soon for him to talk about everything? i don't want to get back with him. i am in my final year of uni. i have no time for any man right now. but i cant stop thinking about him. he was my number 1 for 4years. i'm hurt that he cant even talk to me right now. i think this is sad as we were together for so long. do you think he will ever contact me?sorry for the long message, any feedback would be great. thank uxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, nokutenda  +, writes (23 February 2009):
maybe with time he will contact you but your life shouldn't come to a standstill. go out there and have fun, concentrate on your studies and do the things you enjoy most.he may not want to talk about the break up coz its still too early and he may still have feelings for you.give him his staff back, it will help you move on and for him to see you are moving on, if he still wants you he won't let you. you can ask him to talk about the breakup when you return the staff, tell him that"s the only way you can be able to let go. when you have returned the staff don't contact him again
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