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anonymous
writes: my ex boyfreind is really clingy. He always wants me to hang out with him and if i go somwhere else he always has to know. I want to be his freind but i can't stand how he always tries to control my life. I don't wnat to hurt him but i don't know what to do. Any advice? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2006): I think it is really difficult to remain freinds with an ex boyfriend, because really a failed romance is a failed freienship, if you really really liked each other all that much then you would still be together.
Anon's tale there tells how a lot of men feel about their girlfriends, they have a sexual posession that they think they are going to perform some service for you so you won't go with another unsuitable guy, which of course all of them are unsuitable because it isn't him.
This is not really about their love for you, it is about control and posession, and you do not want to go there.
Let him go, give him some space by cutting all contact off with him for a long while, let him get over you if you really want to be broken up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2006): Clingy is not the word.
he want's u 2 go everywhere with you like a stray dog. i think he may think if he hang's out with you long enought u will take him back or even forget why u dumped him in the first place.
i've been single 2 week's and not seen my ex much. about 8 time's in 14 day's. or somewhere around 8 could be less for all i know and neverl longer than an hour. i always wanna know where she's going why? because i always get a feelin in the pit of my stomach she's going to meet someone new. or even go back 2 some guy's house. and have random sex with her. i still think there's hope 4 me & my ex. she say's she just doesn't want a r-ship for a whilie but she's not talking a few month's she say's it could be yr's before she's gonna think about 1 again.
and i'm liveing in hope she doesn't take longer than 6 month's and if she would sleep with anyone in that time frame. i don't think i could forget her enought to take her back because i would always be thinking. she slept with someone whilie we took a break i like to think it as. but she's say's it's over. she doesn't need a man for nofthing.
but i do think she's gonna need a shag or some oral pleasure's down the road. and i hope it will be me she call's and doesn't do 1 night stand's.
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