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*uppenZeCake
writes:I broke up with my boyfriend of over a year a few weeks ago. Still wanting to remain friends, I decided we should still be able to talk about anything. I had sex with a friend of mine a few days ago. For some INCREDIBLY stupid reason, I told my ex. He flipped out and swore and screamed at me. I feel perfectly justified because we were broken up when I did. I'm so confused about how I should handle this situation. Please help me!
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reader, CuppenZeCake +, writes (27 March 2011):
CuppenZeCake is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank You everyone for answers :) I can totally see everyones point! Because he was so jealous, I never made any close girlfriends. He's seriously emotional and I really should give him time. Thank you again!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (27 March 2011):
 Well it's only been a few week and you moved on? I think he felt hurt. *she got over me THAT fast?*
YOU decided that you two should talk about everything. How would you have felt if the roles were reversed?
Obviously being friends with an ex is possible, I'm still friends with my first BF/EX 20 years later. But certain topics are definitely of limits. TMI. If I was you, I would share such juicy details with a girl friend instead. Your ex can't handle it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2011): You broke up with him. You are staying friends with him.
I would guess he didn't want to break up with you and now he is remaining "friends" because that is what heartsick people often try to do when their partner wants to leave.
He is probably not out of love with you by any means. The relationship has changed FOR YOU but not FOR HIM. (He doesn't need this explained to him logically, we're talking about EMOTIONS here.) When you sleep with someone else right now, it's going to inflict the same emotional pain on him as if you were still together and you just cheated on him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2011): I would wonder why you would tell your ex that unless you were aiming for a reaction. Guess you got one.
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reader, fi_the_tree  +, writes (27 March 2011):
 He was probably upset as it has only been a few weeks since you split and you had sex with someone else. Think about how you might react if it was the other way around...
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