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writes: About 2 years ago I was going out with this lad and then I set him up with my friend and they were together for 1 and a half years. She finished him for another lad, then me and him got close and started dating again. We have been together for around 3 months but I can't tell my dad as he said I am not allowed out with him as he has been in a sexual relationship and I am only 16. Am I in the wrong and should I finish it before it gets too deep? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2006): Yes you're wrong, and yes you should end it. Parents are wiser than you think.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2006): Hun, your father is trying to protect you because he loves you. He's just being a devoted Dad and I hope you respect and listen to his feelings. Because long after you date variety of young men, Dad will always be there for you. He was a young teen fellow at one time and he understands how teen boys think, when it comes to sex. He knows that many teen boys like to have sexual intercourse to boosts their male machismo, their egos and it helps them feel good to their buddies. To many young teen boys, sex is sex and with a lot of them...having sex is just about them. Yes, it sounds pretty lonely, but some teen boys don't have the maturity to view sex as an act of love, givingness and devotion towards their partner. Your father is fearing that...this young man who has had some sexual experience may not respect you and will pressure you into a sexual relationship which could cause all sorts of devastating problems. (pregnancy, stds) What you could do is sit with Dad and reassure him..that you respect yourself and no guy is going to treat you badly. But most of all...tell yourself this and stick to that belief! I wish you luck...now..go hug your Dad. He sounds like a great guy.
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