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writes:im 19, with a young baby, and my 'bad boy' bf, the father of my child and my parents dont get on. He has no respect for them, i admit that, but things got so bad, he hit my dad, and now my dad has pressed charges, i dont blame my dad 4 doin it cus he has gon 2 far, but i dont want my bf 2 go 2 jail, and theres a big chance he cud, how does that leave me and my baby? hasnt my dad thought about that? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2007): Of course your Dad thought about you and your baby, hun. I hardly think your father will leave you and his grandchild absolutely destitute. You sound like a girl who has done painful things and make very, very poor life choices in her life. And perhaps, Dad just did you a monumental favor? Could this be just another time that he has picked up the slack and helped you out of a tough spot? You have taken up with a man who caused a lot of hurt and heartache for your family, Then you had a child with this cad. Your Father has had enough. He is doing the rig thing. Have you ever thought of the worries, the anxieties your Father has been through knowing, that each day this daughter and grandchild live with a guy who is like a 'loose cannon'. Take your father aside and apologize for the pain you you have brought into his life and your family. Make a promise to him that you will get your life in order. and become a strong, self-sufficient woman and make a good, life for you and your child. As for the bf, I hope he does go to prison...perhaps he'll have time to think about his bad behaviors, build some character and accept the consequences of his actions. And when he's out-I sure hope you will have moved on to a happier, more empowered life for yourself...so you don't need him. Respect your family and ask for their support until you get on your feet. But remember, to pullyour own weight and make giant efforts to work hard and do something for yourself. Don't depend on ',men' to give you a life,anymore. That is not their job--it's yours. Good luck and stay strong,hun.
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reader, sunshine99 +, writes (14 March 2007):
 I'm sorry to hear this. Your dad is angry and is not thinking this through and has acted in haste. Your bf should never have hit your dad out of respect for you whatever reason he hit your dad for. My Dad had an argument with my husband and hit him but my husband never hit my dad back out of respect for me. Your bf is supposed to be a dad himself for heaven's sake! What kind of role model is he going to set for your child when it grows up? I dread to think. Ditch this guy for heaven's sake. You and your child deserve better. Why put yourself through this? Maybe your dad has pressed charges for a reason - to get this guy in jail and out of your life. There is a better life out there for you and your child - GO GET IT
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