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writes:So i have albinism. I can not tan at all. One day about maybe two years ago i had this two piece bathingsuit and my dad got wicked mad. He said that i looked ugly in it because it showed to much whtie. That made me feel horrible. and i didn't listen to him but it made me feel horrible about myself. So just the other day i was wearing shorts becasue it was warm. I have really long legs. So my dad told e that i'm to white to be wearring something that short and should wear longer shorts. That made me feel worse. Is white really that ugly ?? I mean whats wrong with not being able to tan ?? That shouldn't make me ugly. Is he saying that just so i don't wear stuff that shows off my body or is it because being white is ugly ?? And if you think white is ugly why ?? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2009): I think your dad is just uncomfortable with the fact you are growing up and not a "little girl" anymore. Forget about his comments on your lack of "tan". That is just his way of saying, "I wish she was not growing up so fast. And I wish she did not wear such revealing clothes." He is feeling over-protective. All dad's go through this. Give him some slack and understanding. He will grow out of it..(lol) Oh, be sure to use good sunscreen when out in the summer days.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2009): I love pale white skin. Thats why i stay out of the sun. Wear what you're confortable in and what YOU want to wear. If you are uncomfortable being pale (not because of your dad) get a spray tan. Ugly isn't a fact, its a matter of opinion, and everyones opinion is not the same.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2009): Hey there, don't listen to your father. Being white is not ugly. I know many beautiful girls that are white and it is NOT OKAY for your dad to tell you this. If he tells you this again, tell him to stop, and if it's affecting your self-e-steem, you should seek a counselor. Being white and having long legs is a beautiful thing. Do not be ashamed of yourself!
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reader, elephant159 +, writes (16 May 2009):
elephant159 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks guys fo much that makes me feel so much better about myself that you all think white is not abd thing. I'm deffenetly goingt o keep wearing what i want. And i have told him it hurts me when he says that stuff. He told me he understands and is sorry. So hopefuly for now on he wont be like that to me. Thanks again for all the help
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2009): I thought true albinism meant that going into the sun could actually be extremely dangerous if you suffer from the condition. Are you truly albino? If so your dad might just be trying to protect your health, albeit in a very tactless and aggressive way. I know that's not much help if you are on the receiving end of his comments, but try to think about the fact that he is probably just trying to look after you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2009): I can't tan either and just go red!. Your dad has no right to be saying anything of the kind to you. Maybe he just dosen't like you wearing short clothes and using the, 'your too white' as an excuse? Just wear what you want and ignore what he says.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (15 May 2009):
I'm very pale and chose not to tan.
Next time he says anything to you just turn round and tell him not to call you ugly as he's not exactly brad pitt either. Then point out everything that he's wearing that makes him look fat and old and if his hair is receding then tell him he should wear a hat.
You might get grounded but I bet he'll get the message.
Would fake tan work for you? Only if you want to I mean. I'd never wear it because I like being pale and interesting in the shade rather than orange and leathery in the sun.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2009): Perhaps talk to your dad and tell him how you feel, and btw there is definately nothing wrong with people who can't tan, i mean take Anne Hathaway,she's really white and she's still beautiful!
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reader, Pyro_Dimples +, writes (15 May 2009):
 babe i can't tan either but i'm proud of it. If someone makes a comment about it i just laugh it off. I have accepted the fact that I can't. You just need to be proud of who you are and ignore negative remarks. At least when you get older you wont have those ugly wrinkles all over. Be proud of what and who you are and who gives a fuck what your asshole of a dad says. Sorry I had a mom that did that to me, You just have to have enough confidence in yourself to realize that his comments don't mean a thing. Hope I helped. message me if you need to talk, best of luck.
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