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writes:hey im from a broken family my mom dad separated when i was 9, im 12 now and my dad has come back but even though he tries to win us we always end up hating him even more.. why am i feeling this way? Reply to this Question
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (15 April 2008):
 The father daughter relationship is always special.
I cannot blame you for your views on your father.
Maybe, time will tell and heal your wounds .
He tried his best and it is not enough , some day when you get
older, you will understand his love for you.
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reader, confused... +, writes (15 April 2008):
confused... is verified as being by the original poster of the questionever since i was small al he ever talked about was my big bro...there was this one time when he came back with big boxes...one of those i thought were for me but it turned out to be for my bro....growing up i never felt him treat me equally only my mom did... and i saw how my mom cried when she knew he cheated on her at that moment i felt like stabbing him in the back for what he did...
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (15 April 2008):
If your mom can accept him back , you could too but you have build too many defensive walls around you .
You need to take down those walls and feel your father's love for you.
Give him a chance and see him from a new perspective.
What ever happened in the past, do not hold any grudge against him.
If you cannot accept him as a father, you can treat him like a friend first.
You feel that way because your mom cannot give you full attentions like before .
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (15 April 2008):
 I think you are still angry with him for leaving in the first place, this is a natural feeling and I think quite normal.
Just give yourself time to accept him back into your life and your family; he loves you and I'm sure wants you to be happy.
Try to remember that he did come back, not all dads do, so think of that as a good thing.
It is possible to love somebody even if you're really really angry with them. And it is certain that your dad loves you even if you're angry at him.
Just be patient, give it time, and hopefully, you'll come to trust him again.
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