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female
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anonymous
writes:My dad had an affair on my mum with a work mate almost two years ago, he says this was because he had a, "Split brain," he told alot of lies during this time. I convinced myself it was all my fault because I saw him on msn and then found the emails from her which I told my mum about. He left the first time and me and my younger sister saw him, he came home but not long afterwards left again. Me and my sister refused to see him because this was the second time he had left. He was gone for three months, when he told me he was leaving again I wouldn't let him out of the house. My mum said to him if you want to leave then just tell your daughter (me) that you choose your new girlfriend over her. My dad then looked at me in the eyes and said, "I choose her over you," I just let him leave. He rang almost every weekend to see if me and my sister would see him, we always said no. One weekend he just didn't ring, the next weekend he rang and told my mum that he didn't ring because he didn't want to upset us. Other things happened and now here we are, I had counceling and so did my family. I took this really hard because I was really close to my dad, very close. I had one to one counceling aside from the family counceling. Like I said its been almost two years and me and my dad still don't and I don't think will ever have our old realationship. My dad is now suffering from panic attacks and is having time off work, I said that I refuse to help him and if he leaves i'm moving in with my grandad and not helping out my mum which I did alot last time because she was very upset, they had been married 21 years. I don't know what to do now, I want him to be better. I just think it will end the same way as last time, although I tell him I hate him, I do love him still because he's my dad. I don't know what I really need advice on, just needed to get this off my chest. Any comments would be appreciated though. Thanks.
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