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writes:Hi, I dont know what to do, I am currently in a relationship in which i have been with him for 4years now, I do love him but i dont know if this is enough he does everything for me but the excitment is not there anymore, I have grown feelings for another guy, he is much older than me but I think about him all the time and think what my life would be like if i were with him but im too scared to leave my partner as i dont want to hurt him and i really care about him...Im so confused dont have a clue who to speak to, I would speak to family and friends but this guy I have grown feelings for is alot older than me and I dont think they would understand. Has anyone got any advice onwhat I can do or what you would do in my situation....please help this is killing me. thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, S'ley +, writes (9 March 2011):
 Hi hello, if that's what you really feel you don't have to worry about what they say and what other people think. It's your own feelings and it's your own happiness so you have to follow your heart. As for me I do prefer a guy older than me because I feel more secure and more his more mature. I have a boyfriend much more older than me and we lasted 13 years, he died 2 years ago, but if ever, I want someone older than me, I am more HAPPY...
I have a boyfriend now same and we are in the same age but too much arguement, maybe just because we are the same in mentality whereas if he's older than me I will respect him and admire him. Anyway, just my own opinion.
Goodluck x
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reader, sundays9best  +, writes (21 September 2009):
 4 years is a very long time to be with someone, i assume that you have been together since high school? my first thought that you lost the connection because your too comfortable with your current boyfriend now, it seems like maybe youre not excited because you guys arent meant to get married, but you jus so happen to get along so well you stayed together this long.
you have to know that its okay to break it off with him. i know it will be hard, but you dont want to stay in a relationship where your continuing to lead him on when you have feelings for this other guy. Try to talk to your family about it first, if they mean a lot in your decision-making.
otherwise, all i could say would to follow your gut. think with what you deeply want. not what you want for right now, because if you dont think it through enough you may regret breaking up with your boyfriend of 4 years.
hope this helps.. you can respond back to me if you need to talk more, good luck hun.
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