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writes:my boyfriend is a crossdresser and wants to get a sex change to become a female. he's told me time and time again that he'd keep his penis to keep me happy, but i don't want him to regret that later. he also has a bit of a temper and yells at me whenever i say something he doesn't wanna hear but he's the one that asked me and told me to be honest. i don't know what to do anymore, i mean he's a nice guy just a little overly sensitive. i need to somebody's advice on what to do and how to deal with this. somebody please tell me how i should handle this? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2007): By the way there is a good article on the BBC news website today about this very issue, under the Health section.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2007): He needs counselling and to not make this decision now. I worked in a hospital where this procedure was done, a very high proportion of the men regretted it later and also many ended their own lives. This was even after years of preparation and counselling.You know how anorexics see themselves as fat, even though they are dreadfully thin? Well this can happen to men who think they want to be a woman. With enormous respect for them, nevertheless, they can can and do change their minds and suddenly see themselves in a totally different light. Imagine having your penis removed and then wishing it was back. It would be like breaking you back, unimaginable, dreadful, appalling.This issues is not your reposibility and you are way too young to be saddled with such a huge issue which you can not fix. Don't be foolish and think you can.Perhaps you can be a good friend to him sometimes but the rest should be up to a counsellor. Honestly ,these years of your life should be fun and you must somehow know that you can not be in any way rsponsible for the happiness of others. Primarily,look after yourself, but be good to others. Not the other way around. You need to be careful in protecting yourself against the kind of psychological damage that this will do to you because you will find it harder and harder to pick good partners in the future if you get into damaging relationships, or accept second best now.
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