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writes:Hello I have this cousin and I love her and before you say anything don't say anything because we're family ok? Anyways we don't see each other that much but when we do we talk a lot and I want to have my first time with her (and don't say I'm too young or anything) but I don't know how to ask her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks to the people who commented!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2009): Just go for it mate and dont you care about what anybody thinks you only get 1 chance in this life to be happy so go for it. I know alot of first cousins that are together and thay are very very happy together (and they did not get together because of there family tradition like some parts of the world) they got together because they love each other and I also know some who have a couple of kids together and another couple that have a little boy who is top of the class in school. Dont listen to all the crap people say about it they would never understand unless they fell in love with there cousin and then if they did they would probably be the first to say egnore everyone. Good luck mate your doing nothing wrong you can marry your first cousin and have perfect children to them. Good luck !
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2009): In the U.K. as far as I know it is legal (though still considered to be really, really twisted and kinda creepy) to marry your first cousin.
Contrary to popular belief the chances of abnormalities in any child possibly concieved is only slightly more than that of someone in no way related to you.
I am the first person to say that love is NEVER wrong. And it IS never wrong to love someone.
But the issues of you two being related will have to be dealt with. The law may not be able to interfere but that won't stop family members from giving their two cents and believe me, most of it won't be what you want to hear.
Talk to your cousin, if you two feel that way about each other... then I hope you have a happy life. But if one of you doesn't, then I hope you don;t take it too harshly.
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reader, didda123  +, writes (21 January 2009):
 It is perfectly legal to have a relationship with a 1st cousin and infact marry. Does your cousin feel the same way that you do about her or have you not made your feelings known to her yet?If you get the vibes that she likes you as well then just build on that ask her if she would like to go out to the cinema etc. you need to build on the relationship before you start thinking about sex. She may only see you as a family member she gets on with, only you know if there is any chemistry between you.The concerns you may have if your relationship grew would be if you decided to have any children. I have just read an article regarding abnormalities which may occur with children of 1st cousins and apparently scientists have discovered that abnormalities are no more common with children of 1st cousins than they would be in women over the age of, 40 saying that unfortunately lol I am over 40 and i would be concerned about any birth defects if i was to have another child so it's probably worth thinking about.I know you are just on the verge of a relationship and im assuming you are quite young (just your registered age is 26-29) and a family may be way into the future.I hope that this has helped in some way. Good luck x
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reader, lotus mama808  +, writes (20 January 2009):
 Huh. Well, first off, are you sure she is interested in you like that? I mean, my brother and I are super close, to the point where he tells everyone he wants to marry someone just like me, but this, in NO way, means he wants to marry ME. Secondly, do you know if she is ready, or has done this before? I ask this because the answer will better help us here answer your question. Have you considered what your other family members might think of the two of you being together? This is very important. You do realize that if you impregnated her that your child would be at great risk of having abnormalities and health issues, right? I am not judging you, just trying to put things in perspective for you. If this is what you really want, regardless of what others think, you should be sure that this is what she wants too, because, like I said before, My brother and I are very tight, talk constantly, and have a very close bond, but this dosnt mean we want to sleep together. We are lucky to have eachother as family, and be as close as we are.
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