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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:sounds like an odd thing to ask advice on.. but my cousin is coming to stay for the weekend at my university in two weeks and i don't know if she'll be happy about how i really am here.. i think she has an idea but doesn't fully know.i'm a big flirt, i love talking to guys and having harmless banter and flirting with them it's fun and i'm young! so why not right? but she doesn't like girls who do this, or even like talking to strangers, especially when you're walking down the street to the bars and random drunks talk to you which we are always amused at, but she finds them annoying and creepy and tells them to get lost. She's more reserved and always says we don't know them, that guys just want one thing, which i know, but it doesn't mean they'll get it, i'm not that girl! And most times she always pulls me away from them, or embarrasses me like i'm a kid!then there's drinking, she isn't a big drinker at all whereas we all are here! I love drinking, but i don't get so drunk like most girls where i'm falling over and being sick; more of merry, where i'm fully aware of what i'm doing, so i don't see the problem. But she always exaggerates it and makes it out like i'm paralytic and she doesn't really doesn't like girls who drink a lot (unless of course they're her friends), then she finds them funny, but to her we're just annoying drunks who need to be treated like kids. that is what annoys me, that just because i'm family it's different; where as her friends i've met are worse than me and she's fine with that!so what i'm saying is, should i change myself for those two nights and be well, someone else so that it keeps her happy and there's no complaints? because i can do this, i don't want to but if it's the best idea i'm okay with that... Or should i just be myself and carry on like i usually am and enjoy the night and if she doesn't like it she'll have to just deal with it?
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reader, person12345  +, writes (1 February 2013):
 If you are literally having a moral dilemma over missing out on partying for two nights, I think your cousin is absolutely right about your behavior. It's two nights, not a permanent situation. Your cousin is visiting, you should be hanging out with her and spending time with her, not off flirting with random guys and getting drunk.
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