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writes:i love my cousin; but i have a boyfriend. ma cousin lives with me and my family. my love for him grows every day. i have so much love for him that i dont even know if i love for my boyfriend. i no that my cousin loves me back cause he tells me everyday. he kisses me and he is soooo HOTTT. i cry sometimes cause i no that we cant be together. my family wont let me. ma parents know that we kiss. the only reason why hes still here is because he has nowhere else to go. his family is in peru, and yes im peruvian. we reay wanna be with each other but we cant and its killing me. everyday i wish i diddnt like him. bt i do. i need help!!p.s. my cousin knows i gotta boyfriend and wouldnt give me up. he wants to win my heart, and already has. he says that he would do anything for me.
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (7 September 2009):
 love is love adams chick came from his own rib a cousin isnt a big deal. If you like this guy go for it where will your parents be 40 yrs from now when your shacked up with some guy you hat planning your third divorce parents dont no everythng they just want you to thnk they do. A smart parent would tell you they dont thnk its a good idea but leave it up to you its your life and future and theres really no god reason exept stereotypes for you not to be with your cousin your family may feel embarased by it but who cares just live your life
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2009): Go with your cousin. I'm in love with my cousin. I had to move away because of this and my family wouldn't have it. If it was now again I would do it. If he makes you happy go for it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2009): give up your boyfriend and go with your cousin. As long as your happy don't care what people think... You want to be happy then follow your heart
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2009): rhythmandblues2 - first cousins aren't allowed to marry? I have no idea about america but in England we are allowed. A girl on my street is actually married to her cousin - they have perfectly normal kids too, so i'm not completely sure what tree your barking up. The only problem i see in this situation is the family being against it, age and the fact she already has a boyfriend - I say wait until your cousin is out of the house before continuing any sort of relationship as your family might be more open to the idea of you dating him when he's not shacked up there. Also, i would check your local state laws on the whole cousin marrying/dating thing - at least you'll know where you stand on the issue and if the law says you can, then there is no way your folks can stop you but i'm still be kind and tackful towards their feelings and wishes.Best of luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2009): Listen, girlie, your cousin is off limits to you as a romantic partner. I am appalled that your parents know about him kissing you and of your feelings and are still allowing this horny teenager alone in the house with you.
Sorry, but that is what this is about. First cousins cannot marry due to the fact that if they were to produce offspring, their offspring would most likely have some severe genetic defects, it is called inbreeding.
You are at a young and impressionable age and your hormones are raging. My best advice to you is to have your parents find your cousin somewhere else to live, or have a sit down with all of you in the household and having your male cousing Outed in this way, that should cool his heels and his sexual passions for you. Surely one of the two of you has to know this is wrong.
Take care of you, and stick with the boyfriend over the cousin.
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