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writes:Hi,I have been getting to know a man I met through my work (I look after his son). As far as I am concerned, we are just friends. He has been giving me a lift home from work when he comes to pick his boy up because he has to go past my house to pick his other child up from another nursery that is nearby. He is Married so there is no way anything would ever happen between us and I know his wife - he and his wife are both really friendly. I get on really well with his son who chooses to spend more time with me at nursery than with any of the other members of staff. Recently, my hours at work have been extended (only by an extra quarter of an hour) so the boy is picked up before I finish work, so I haven't been expecting this man to think of offering me a lift home. However, he asks what time I finish work and then says he will come back up to get me before going to collect his other child (his house isn't far from where I work). I have continued to believe he is just being nice as he never says anything 'inappropriate' to me and always asks how my day's been, etc.The trouble I am having with all of this is one of my colleagues seems to have 'noticed' that this man is doing this (coming back up to get me). I feel that it isn't really any of her business - his wife knows he does it so it's not like we are hiding anything. Thing is, my colleague said on Friday that she thinks I have a 'soft spot' for this man just because his son was telling me about his dad (he talks about him to me most of the time and I can't just ignore him or I wouldn't be doing my job properly). She then went on to tell me that he has been married before and has children by other women (past marriage/s). I had to tell her that I already knew all of this because he told me all of that himself a long time ago. This made me feel really awkward and then when the man turned up five minutes later I couldn't even speak to him properly as I felt embarrassed that she had just said all of that. He still offered me a lift home and then in the car he asked why I had been a bit "flat" with him at nursery and I just said that I'd had a bit of a funny afternoon at nursery. He asked if I was going to "share what happened" and I said not really. We hardly spoke the reat of the way home after that. But he was still okay when I thanked him for taking me home and wished him a good weekend. I'm worried how he's going to be when he comes up again next week as I want to just forget what was said and continue being friendly. Do you think he might think I like him more than just a friend? I don't want him to think that because we are both genuinely nice people and my colleague is known for voicing her opinions when it's not wanted.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2010): dont let what that girl said ruin your friendship with him. it might take some adjusting for you to get it off your head, but if hes a good friend, hell look past the fact that your acting alittle weirder then usual (got all this on your mind) and it will be a thing in the past. if the other girl who said this doesnt get the picture and says something that makes you uncompfortable again, tell her to mind her own business!
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