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writes:I'm 16, almost turning 17. A month ago, I was full of life, had lots of friends and my grades were pretty good. a couple weeks later, I got accused of backstabbing by my friends and all of them, now, hate or dislike me. I did not do what they had thought I did, and no matter what I say, they won't believe me. I know this means that maybe they aren't true friends but now it makes me lonely. I still have friends, but none who are close to me. I am always so down, I pretend to be happy. I have no confidence what so ever anymore. My marks have gone down because I keep worrying about it. Recently one of my so called best friends made me realize that we aren't really that close. It makes me really unhappy. I'm almost graduating... i'm not sure if i can handle the rest of this year. What should I do to spend my last year at my high school?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2007): hey yes im going through the same thing at the moment.
just stick in there. good luck.
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reader, flower girl  +, writes (27 June 2007):
 I went through exactly the same thing as you when i was at school and it forced me to take a week off school which i know realise was silly because they kind of got what they wanted, and after a couple of weeks it was as though nothing had ever happened.
Keep you head held high and concentrate on your school work and believe me that this will all blow over very soon as they will find the next person to bully.
Take care.xx.
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reader, kellyO +, writes (27 June 2007):
 Dear Anom,
I understand how it feels like. We have all being through that at one time or the other. This is real life training for you. You have experiences with all sort of people and this helps shape the person you become. If you are a fan of beyonce the singer, you will see she went through a similar thing with her childhood friends splitting from her singing group. What did she do? She dusted herself despite the fact that the whole world seemed to blame her at first. Now she is one of the top female musicians right now! Have you listened to her track "Survivor", it is very inspiring.
I think you should focus on graduating and making new friends. There is little u can do now if they dont want to believe u and i know it hurts. It does most especially if u werent guilty of doing what they said u did. But not withstanding, if they were as close to you as you say they will come around and realise that there is the possibility that you are telling them the truth. If they dont realise this then i am afraid they are not your true friends. Why will u want to be with a bunch of friends that cant seem to trust u anyways?
Take care dear
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2007): Dont worry about your friends.I had the same problem once when all my closet friends thought that I was talking shit about them.SO yeah I know how you feel I wanted to move to a different school because I couldnt take it they just kept on turning everyone against me.After a couple of months they all started talking to me again and we all said that we were sorry.So now I talk to all of them but were not close as we use to.So what am trying to say is not to worry about your friends because they will come around sooner or later.Just keep your focus on your school work..Good luck..
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reader, Lovebunny +, writes (27 June 2007):
 There isn't much you can do except ,You need to focus on your schooling and U should try to make the best of things and may be you will gain a close friend. Meet some new people may be that will help a bit.may be they will get over what they thought you did and become friends with you again. you should try to be happy with the fact that at lest u have some short of friends ,some people have no kind of friends at all. high school can be so tought,I didn't have any close friends in hign school and I don't really have any friends now, but i makes the best of it and chats to people but at times it does make me depressed.
good luck and be happy.
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