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female
age
41-50,
*littlefrustrated
writes: I have been in a realtionship with my boyfriend for two years and sex is fine, I am just a little frustrated about his inability to ejaculate inside me during sex. He was circumcised in his mid 50's and has never been able to ejaculate as often as he would like. While I do sympathise with his condition, and he tells me he is OK with it, that it is something that he just learned to accept, I can't help but feel frustrated about him not being able to ejaculate, and I feel like I am inadequate. He tells me that it is not me who is the problem, but the effects of having been circumcised. It is also hard for me to get him to ejaculate during oral and manual stimulation. I have no problem having great orgasms with him, but I want to be able to please him in the same manner. I feel like I am not performing anything right so that I can get him to reach a point to where he can ejaculate. Is there anything I can do, or an area that I need to focus on to stimulate him so that ejaculation won't be as difficult for him to achieve?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2008): Dear Poster
This is very difficult; immediately lots of questions comes to mind; but with the info as posted I suggest the following:
1. He should consult his doctor; there might be medical reason for his ejaculation problems; (not necessarily related to the circumcision)
2. If it is only since his circumcision and if all medical reasons have been eliminated; it might be psychological and he should consult a therapist or counselor.
3. You should not take it personal and not allow this to make you feel inadequate or as if you are not doing enough;
Try and get professional help as suggested above and keep the lovemaking an art of loving each other; try not to FOCUS on the ejaculation or climax.
Hope this is of assistance.
Best wishes, enjoy what you are doing and keep SMILING.
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