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writes:ok.. i have a question, i have been going to my chiropractor for about 2 weeks now, he is only 29 yrs old and i am a very mature 18 year old, when i go to visit him we flirt. laugh, and hold interesting conversations, i am really starting to like him, he is not married, and seems to have made it know that he doesnt have a girlfriend, i am wondering that maybe if he is trying to come on to me and if so what move should i make...he once asked about my major and said that he would introduce me to some of his friends who had the same major, i am worried that i am starting to like him to much, but the conversation and the chemistry is great, so what do i do...plz help??
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2008): You are straying into very dangerous territory and you should understand that he is your Doctor and you are his patient, from what I have been able to glean from US Law any liaison between you may break state law and certainly will be in contavention of the code of practice and ethics of the profession. Have a look at the following (whole link)
for further information
http://www.todayschiropractic.com/issues/2007/apr_may/7.html
Take particular notice of the following written to Chiropractors
"Be mindful of your own intentions. Patients will pick up on your subtle behavior if you show interest in a more intimate relationship. As tempting as the situation may be, stop and consider the significant risks to your practice and livelihood. If you think the attraction is mutual, at the very least release the patient from your practice immediately and consult your state law regarding how much time must pass from the release from care until a dating relationship could be pursued. State laws vary significantly on this issue but every state forbids sexual relationships with current patients. Document the termination of the professional relationship with a lawyer."
"- Know the specifics of your state’s laws regarding relationships with patients. Also familiarize yourself with the FCLB’s Code of Ethics for regulatory board members, which provides some helpful guidelines that can be applied to private practice in any state."
Finally do not confuse his caring nature for that is part of his job as the article puts it
"Chiropractors tend to be caring people who enter practice to help others. Although that genuine warmth appeals to patients and creates a natural instinct to reach out, maintaining professional boundaries best serves doctors and patients with a comfortable, predictable and non-threatening environment for healing."
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2008): It sounds like he likes you but remember he is a man after all so it could just be that he is being friendly. On the other hand he probab;y is hinting to date you but he may need to becareful as u are a client of his.
I'd wait until after you dont need to see him again and then see if he wants to meet up for a drink-if he says yes then great and if he says no then u wont have to face the humiliation of seeing him again.
Good luck.
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reader, vilipili +, writes (25 October 2008):
 well, if you think you like him too much, you might just do. the sad truth is that once you like him 'too much' it's hard to pull away. first, you have to consider whether or not you want to pull away before you're too deep in. if you decide that you like liking him then follow the chemistry and just follow along with him. try not to do things you'd regret but if you're sure of the way you feel then just play everything out. it's important though, that you realize when you're going too far. if you tell him how you feel and he doesn't feel the same way then it's very likely that he'll pull away and you'll wind up getting hurt. you need to pace yourself, don't fall too far too fast and then pull away really quick. it's gonna feel like an airplane turbulence and you'll probably feel like your world it gonna crash any moment.
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