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writes:hi therenot sure where to start but here goesmy partner has been telling lies about me to our health visitor and family she tells them i swear at her and that im verbally abusive to her which is untrue we have had our ups and downs shortly after our twins were born she began having an afair with a freind of my family and my mother knew all about it (and probably most of my so called family)i feel so alone and since moving up here i have no freinds or family and nobody to talk to what do i do?who do i talk to ? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2007): ouch.
sorry mate, it sounds like youve picked a real shocker of a woman and been dumped with a real shit family. knowing she was cheating on you and saying nothing? thats just evil.
i know its hard, but if i were you. id just hold my head up high, think of everything i can offer the world and fu*k them. you sound a real honest guy and have a heart. you dont deserve this.
of course support the kids, id suggest a dna test with that kind of woman.
but get rid of them all and move on to someone who deserves you, create your own loving family.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2007): Take that health visitor to one side and put your picture across. How could you mam know about her affair and not tell you? That is all wrong. She has had an affair and you have two lovely kids, what a bitch!Sorry to sound blunt but i think you two should either sit down and sort this out and try and make things work for once and for all or split. You just cannot go on like this. You have a life too.
Take care and don't put up with this any longer.
xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2007): Take that health visitor to one side and put your picture across. How could you mam know about her affair and not tell you? That is all wrong. She has had an affair and you have two lovely kids, what a bitch!Sorry to sound blunt but i think you two should either sit down and sort this out and try and make things work for once and for all or split. You just cannot go on like this. You have a life too.
Take care and don't put up with this any longer.
xx
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reader, cd206 +, writes (25 January 2007):
 Talk to the health visitor in confidence. Maybe you could make an appointment to pop in and see her in her surgery hours or something and ask her if she thinks your wife could be suffering from post natal depression since you're concerned about the lies she's been telling about you. Hopefully the health visitor will take this on board and arrange for your wife to get some counselling or meds to help out a bit. Your wife needs you right now, however much she's pushing you away but as the twins get older and things settle down a bit you'll get a chance to get out there and make some friends of your own etc. Try to be her rock for now though.
CD
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reader, Nikita +, writes (25 January 2007):
 You need to talk to the health visitor as well and put the record straight about this. I dont know why she is doing this but it could be that she has post natal depression. Does she behave like this normally? If you feel alone then I suggest you look on the internet for professional advice. Below are a couple of web sites that you can try okay. BBC.co.uk. and www.relate.org.uk/wantadvice/relationshipcounselling/ - I hope this helps. Good luck.x
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2007): I used the word originates as...in an abusive relationship...which you stated some indicators that it may be...there is an originator and then the partner begins to abuse as well.
So you both may now be caught up in this emotionally damaging relationship-abusive.
Get counselling.
Best Wishes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2007): Find an individual counsellor. If the abuse originates with her...it is evident that her Family/childhood was not very loving and nuturing and she now is abusive.
Deception and cheating are indicators of a possible disorder which being genetic...are also exacerbated by childhood abuse, neglect, rejection, abandonment.
Have you sworn at your partner? Ups and downs...yelling, swearing, name calling, critisms, put downs?
What are the lies, examples please.
That you feel alone...please seek some immediate counselling.
You need someone to listen to you;we all do.
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