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writes: My brother's girlfriend make teases me a lot when he isn't around. She calls me names and makes me feel bad about myself all because I'm overweight (but I'm dieting) but when my brother is around she puts this "innocent act" on. I did nothing to her and I'm always very nice to her. There are times when I just want to cork her to death (I'm award its illegal). I talk to his girlfriend about it (my brother won`t listen to me) but she told me I`m a fat bitch and I should drop dead because no one likes me. I really need help with this. Im getting fed up with her.
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reader, saoirse  +, writes (4 February 2009):
 I can't imagine how painful those remarks must be to you, but I'm sure the fact your own brother won't even listen is much more painful. Sometimes, when people are involved they only want to see the good in the people they are with. This is because a) they don't want to admit the person they care about is wrong for them and b) they would have to take responsibility for the actions - in this case of his girlfriend towards you. If I were you I'd ask my brother to stand around the corner, but make her think that he's gone from the room. Then when she starts to banter you, he can hear it for himself. Also, you could set up a recording device (a laptop on a computer/webcam, or a sound recorder, or perhaps the voice memo feature on your cell phone) and record when she's acting like that. You could also call your own voice mail and let it record as a message to play back to him. However, if this keeps going on, you need to inform your parents. While your brother might get mad at you at first you're both young, and he'll out grow it, but no one should talk to you like that in your own home. And I'm sure that your parents don't want your brother hanging out with someone who treats you like that. The main thing here is do not stoop to her level. Walk out of the room, avoid being around her if you have to , but don't let yourself start lighting into her, because the second you do, someone will inevitably hear you and you'll be the one they're blaming. Also, so she could just be trying to set you up.I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this, but know that you don't deserve to be talked to like that by anyone.Good luckS.
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