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writes: This is quite a long story but please stick with it.A few days ago, my boyfriend was away doing preseason training with his and my brothers team. They are both professional rugby players so are away a lot training and playing etc. Anyway, i hadnt seen my bf (lets call him Will) for about 2 weeks so decided to go and visit him at the team hotel. I got all dressed up and looking as sexy as possible and knocked on Wills hotel room door. He answered and we ended up having amazing sex but as we were in the middle of it my brother (lets call him Ross) walked in on us having sex. The hotel room was a twin room so there wasnt different bedrooms. I had no idea they were room mates and Will didnt think Ross would be back as he was meant to be at training. We are both really mortified and Ross is being really weird with us both. Im his little sister so i get that it was gross for him to see that but i dont want to just leave him and it ruin our relationship as we have always been really close. Ross has been weird with Will at training too which isnt great as they are on the same team and need to be able to work coherantly. Please help any suggestions will be appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2011): my boyfriends dad walked in onus once. The difference was it seemed like he realised the error was partially his and he SHOULD have knocked. I felt a bit awkward around him for a little while, but soon realised.... he would have known we were doing that anyway, he would be silly not to !!! and whilst it is not nice for him to see his son like that, he quickly gotover it
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice. I dont think i could discuss it with my brother it would be way too embarrassing. I think he was just shocked when he walked in and im sure it cant be easy seeing your sister having sex so im guessing by basically ignoring us its his way of dealing with it. Im going to watch a match where they are both playing next week so hopefully when we go out after the match we can get on like nothing happened. Like i said we are really close and hate not being able to chat to him normally. I hope he gets over it soon as we are all going out for our engagment party in a few weeks time.
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reader, MonksDaBomb  +, writes (16 August 2011):
 I agree with both previous posters. Don't talk about it at all to your brother. Just act like nothing has happened and eventually your brother will get over it. Tell your bf to not mention it to your brother either, as you said they're on the same team. Let's hope your brother is man enough to not treat your bf poorly as a teammate just because of this incident.
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reader, serenity80  +, writes (16 August 2011):
Nothing you can do, you will all laugh about it in a few years time.
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reader, sammy1986 +, writes (16 August 2011):
ive been in the same sitaution as yoursekf i just laughed it off and no more has been said about it it will in time be forgotten about
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reader, person12345 +, writes (16 August 2011):
 Unfortunately there's nothing you can do. Definitely don't go try to talk to him about it. That will just make it worse, no matter what you say. You're just going to have to let it be awkward for awhile and it will fade with time. Like BettyBoup says, you're family, you'll both get over it soon and things will go back to normal.
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reader, BettyBoup +, writes (16 August 2011):
 Aw, this is just one of those really awkward things in life that seem awful and cringy when they happen. But in a few days, weeks and months it will be less and less awkward, until you forget about it. Eventually it'll turn into a funny embarrassing story for Ross to tell on your wedding day.
For now, I'd just leave him to get over it. If you are close and think a chat will help, by all means talk to him to see how he feels. Try to crack a joke about it. But at the end of the day you are adults and family, so you will get over it, and it's not a big deal in the grand scheme of things. You'll survive the awkwardness, don't sweat it. Just give it time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2011): Well I think that you need to talk to will about it and say I'm sorry I didn't know you were going to come in and just leave it at that
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