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writes:Hey everyone I've been feeling so depressed lately,I don't wanna talk to no one. But my boyfriend called me and I told him to text me, I didn't feel Like talking, he asked me what was wrong and I said I can't tell him, it's was a very private matter for me, it's about my family and I don't trust him that much and he wouldn't understand because he's sometimes childish, but I didn't tell that I just told him I can't tell him, then he asked me if I needed space, I asked him what he meant, and he said "i don't mean breakup, i mean do you need time for your self"?. Then I told him I don't know, then he said his phone is going off for three days and I'm not gonna hear from him. I think he's lying, he's phone is just fine. This is the time I needed him the most and he just wanna abandon me, even if his phone isn't gonna be working, he has friends, sister, brothers. He can use their phone. But I'm just gonna be patience, him and my sister always text each other. If she text him and he replies, it's gonna be over. Please help, do you think his trying to take time off out relationship?, he's suppose to be there for me like he always said. He always told me he loves me, why would he wanna do that?, tell me what you guys think. Thanks
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (2 July 2012):
 What do you expect him to do? You told him you didn't want to talk to him on the phone and that you didn't want to tell him what was wrong with you? So how is he meant to be there for you if you are pushing him away?
Also I don't understand why you would want him to be there for you if you cannot even trust him to talk to him and tell him what is wrong with you? You say he is the childish one but it sounds to me like you are just as bad. If you cannot trust him then why be with him? He cant be there for you if you don't allow him in.
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reader, kjbc  +, writes (1 July 2012):
Men are so difficult to understand sometimes but one thing is for sure they dont know what to do when us girls have a problem. He asked you what the problem was and you said you couldnt tell him and you wasnt sure if you wanted space. He wont know what to do now. The best thing is to tell him what you need from him and what he can do for you. Im not sure why his phone would be turned ofc for 3 days but i would get in touch as soon as you can and talk to him before its to late. Good luck xx
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reader, person12345 +, writes (1 July 2012):
 You told him you wanted space, so he's giving you space. If someone behaved with me the way you were behaving with him I'd be bracing myself to get dumped and giving them as much breathing room as I could. If you want your boyfriend to be there for you, you can't expect him to be a mind reader, you need to tell him that you need him and just want his support. You have to tell him how you want support, some people want to be listened to, some just want a shoulder to cry on, but you have to tell him that. You can't essentially tell him you need space and then expect him to know what you really want.
If you want him to help you out now, send him a brief email. Keep it brief though, long paragraphs about the issues you're having can sound a little crazy when they're presented over email.
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