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female
age
41-50,
*ngel32
writes:Hi please can you help me with my dilemma. Me and my partner of 13 years seperated last september and we have 2 children. I have been dating a guy for the last few months who is currently finalising his divorce and he also has three children the youngest being 5 yrs old. I know I must seem crazy but I have developed strong feelings for him and he treats me like a true gent and is caring and loving and shows me that he cares. Unfortunately his ex wife is causing chaos now he has started dating and is making things impossible so that we can't meet as often a we were ie, she doesn't turn up for the children on time if atall which means he can't see me. The thing that confuses me is that she had and affair with an old flame and is still with the guy, and has taken my boyfriend for every penny he has, meaning he has to sell his home to pay her off. the thing is he doesn't keep anything from me and has been honest and upfront about the whole situation from the start, but im really starting to struggle with it now. I just don't know what to do? Should I just try to relax and back off a little and not give him pressure or should I walk away? problem is I think I love hime :(ps..they have been seperated for over a year and live seperately.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2009): basically you are having an affair with a MM. His divorce has not been finalised.
only when it is then will you be able to make any demands. for now, its just biding your time.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2009): You are in a realtionship with HIM not her. HE should be making you feel secure no matter what she is doing. Everyone has a past and it is HIS responsibility to be invested in his current relationship. And if he is then GREAT! Its expected that she may cause problems because even if you think you are over someone, sometimes you're not and resorting to childish tactics and using the children to slow down your relationship is a very unfortunate reflection of her character. Be grateful you are better then that and BE better than that.
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reader, lover23  +, writes (14 May 2009):
are you saying she is fighting with you,bugging you,or what.if she is causing fights well talk to her or your boyfriend about it.that is my answer on the other hand i don't know.hope i helped.
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