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writes:my boyfriend loves me alot..but i hav a major problem when it comes to his friends...they drink n smoke lyk nythng...wid very hard efforts i hav chnaged my guy..he had almost quit drinking..n m sure abt it coz almost all the tym he used to spend his tym wid me..bt now a days..dose frnds who had dumped him once hav cum back again,n made my life a hell..wat do i do...i asked my bf to either choose me or dem coz i dont want him to indulge into dat shit agn...bt he says he cant leave his frnz.he has full right to choose his frnds.n wenevr he is wid dem he almost forgets me..he is too happy with those bastards and again he has started drinking n making nytouts.n afraid...i hate them like anythng.what do i do...plz help me out...:(:( Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthnx alot fr ur answers....i m still in a dilemma...hope tym wud heal dis...
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reader, vv...i +, writes (7 August 2011):
try to share all Ur feelings with him , if he loves u so much definitively he will understand you. maintaining a relationship is u have to have lot of patience for it. don't argue with him just relax try talking to him less , i think this will do the trick . i wish he understands you, then slowly you can bring him out from the addiction .
if nothing works then u need to wait for Ur parents to choose u a nice person.
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reader, krit +, writes (6 August 2011):
 Good girls go bad but bad guys don't go for becoming all good.
All your effort would go waste if you try to do so. It's was his choice for being like this NOT yours or his FRIENDS whom you call bastards. He's responsible for his own decision not anyone around him. So he have to make a effort to change himself. Not only for this relationship but for himself also.
Giving a ultimatum won't help but make him understand that his actions are damaging him and you care for Him a lot so any of this shit tears you apart. Be patient with him and make him promise to stop doing it again.
Giving it up all at once is unreastic but slowly take him away from this.
Remind him of his promise if trys to go back to it.
Hope it helps!!!
Krit
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reader, VSAddict  +, writes (6 August 2011):
 You've tried to change him and it didn't work. If this is the life that he wants to live, then you are going to have to let him live this way. He's not a child and knows exactly the danger he's setting himself up for. Your boyfriend is right that he has the right to choose who he does and doesn't associate with. And unfortunately, he's chosen the wrong people. He's not going to change for you and this is something that you can't deal with, so leave him. It may be hard, but do you really want someone who puts alcohol before you? I think not. So let him damage his liver and brain cells and find someone else.
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