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writes:My bf's friends are really mean and disrespectful to me, they put me down constantly. Its gotten to the point where I am scared to hang around his friends. I dread having to spend time with them because I feel so intimidated being around them and low about myself because of their put downs. My bf does not stand up for me. He either tries to down play the situation and tells me I am over-reacting or says "if you were more like them, if you did this, then they wouldnt make fun of you", or he stands their in silence or joins in and agrees with what they are saying!! Its gotten to the point where I have to chose either between spending my weekends without my bf or with his friends and him just so I can see him. I cant ask him to not see his friends and I wouldnt expect that. But it does hurt that he is choosing his friends over me, who clearly do not even respect him because if they did then they would respect me as his gf.So much for a bunch of friends...But anyway he thinks the sun shines out of their bums pretty much. He tells me I need to try harder to get to know them then I will like them. Yeah right...how am I supposed to like a bunch of guys and girls who clearly have judged me and put me down for being who I am and who disrespect me? If there is one thing I have learned by the age of 20, it is that those who think they can CHOOSE who they respect and disrespect, do not know the true meaning of respect and are not good people to be around. They think that they can just respect someone when they want too. I believe respect is just a given in any relationship and any sitution. Everyone deserves it. How do I deal with this? I cant continue hanging around his friends anymore, but if I dont then I will rarely see my bf. How do I make this relationship work? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2009): I am with human male when he says tell them all to take a flying f*ck! I would not entertain people vibrating at this level if you paid me to. If it doesn't feel right, it isn't. Why would you want to find your groove with a lot like that?
Do yourself a favour and kick his ass to the curb. He does not respect you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2009): Is there a chronic man shortage in Ozzy at the moment? He joins in when they pick on you?!! Why would you want a relationship with this guy?
Why don't you tell them ALL to go take a flying f*ck?
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