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writes:I am not sure what to do. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2years. He has a female friend who is very rude and disrespectful to me. After awhile he would begin to see some of the stuff and would not allow her to interrupt me or pull him away from me while I was talking to him however, now there is a lot more going on and he doesn't see any of it and it frustrates me.Now only is she a bad friend because she only cares about her self and left us stranded an hour away from our home when my car broke down but she also talks a lot of trash about people she claims to be friends with. The thing that also pisses me off is that I try to ignore her but she keeps pushing me. When he moves or walks away she will walk next to him or move to sit next to him. When she laughs she will tough his arm and look at me to see if I am reacting. She also does this when she talks to him. She is always staring at me to see how I react to her and rolling her eyes at me. But, he doesn't see any of this and thinks she is just weird and refuses to stop talking to her especially because they are study buddies. She knows she aggregates me and that he needs her for school and it frustrates me because I do not like anyone to have power over me and I feel like he never protects me from her disrespect. He says that if I let her get to me then I am weak. One time we all went out to a movie and she was talking to me like we were friends. I thought ok maybe we are forgetting about the fact that she is fake and crazy and the next day she saw me literally 5 times and ignored me. When she walked into his apartment with his friend she said him to me after he said hello. I feel disgusted that people are friends with her and even more mad that people do not see this wolf in sheep's clothing. I know she is more then weird and that she hates me and is trying to break us up. When she was walking into the building she tried to utilizes as little space as needed in order to prevent me from entering and there are times as I am walking away she laughs behind my back.I know karma will come back and bite him in the ass but right now I need to get her out of my life and away from him. Every time I see her or she talks to me my sympathetics kick in. I begin to breathe heavily, my heart rate increases and I begin to feel dizzy.I am not sure what to do at this point. Do I tell her to stop talking to me or just ignore her? I feel that if I tell her to not talk to me then she knows she won and I hate her and if I ignore her then she will work harder to piss me off. If i roll my eyes at her and walk away will it make it worse? Since my boyfriend doesn't want to "get in the middle", even though I feel she keeps him there I feel as though it is my time to do something. Reply to this Question
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reader, nightsprites +, writes (9 February 2011):
I am in a similar situation. My boyfriend is friends with a woman who is a complete bitch. He even says what a bitch she is, yet when she is around he is up her ass. I can't stand her, but I was nice until she disrespected me and my kids. I talked to him about this and he tried telling me I'm the one with the problem. I have absolutely no problem with any of his other female friends. When we first started dating he was her bitch. She would call him and he would pretty much run. Since she had disrespected me the last time he had pretty much cut off contact with her. Now, she's getting a divorce and I fear she will reel him back in and he will go running. I can't put up with this. We have a child together and I love him alot. Why can't he see how innappropriate this is? BTW They used to have sex together and he would go over to her house (while we were together) and hang out in the hot tub drinking with her til who knows when. I work the night shift, so I didn't get to go. I did my best to not flip out over this, her husband was there, yet not always in the hot tub. I trust him, and don't think he would cheat, is it me, am I just overly jealous, or can other people see the problem here?
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (10 September 2010):
 Do excuse my language ahead of time..Guys don't want to get in the middle of girl fights because it can get pretty ugly. Few things here, this one is a fake ass bitch who wants nothing but your man. She doesn't care about you and enjoys getting a rise out of you..which who has time for that crap it sounds exhausting. Also, she will do everything she can to wear you down and get you out of her way. The only way you would let her win is if you broke up with your boyfriend. Victory, for the bitch. Another thing is do note you can't pick and choose who your boyfriend's friends are. Leave your boyfriend out of this, he's not going to defend your honor, and refuses to get in the middle. On a side note, I'm sure there's other study buddies or tutors he can utilize in college.
Ding, ding, it's you and her in this boxing match..what are you going to throw the anger she enjoys getting out of you or yawn, roll your eyes and walk away? You don't have time for these immature games. Stop talking to her, pretend that she doesn't exist and you don't have the time for her pettiness. Yeah she may be your boyfriend's friend but you don't have to acknowledge she exists, and make it known you're here to stay. By you giving her no response, she will soon tire from dishing it out and getting nothing in return. Thus a wasted effort on her part. Yes, I know easier said than done, but it's possible to shut someone out someone you hate, no talking, no eye contact, nothing. Good Luck!
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