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writes:the man that i have been dating for 3 years allows his son-in-law to control his life. his son-in-law does not like me because i threathen his inhertience from this man. none of his family wants him to date me. they act like i am bad news but i know better. they want him available all of the time to help them with projects around the house. they really do not have an idea of how a dating relationship should be. i did not know this man when his daughter was dating this son=in=law but truthfully i have to wonder what kind of dating relationship they had. they seem to think that ours is so unusual. his son-in-law goes belistic if i am in my boyfriends house. if any of my family is mentioned to him by anyone he storms out of the house like a mad man. he actually came and took pictures of my car one weekend when my boyfriend and i had gone on a trip to the mountains. he was so furious when he found out that i was with my bf on the trip that he just went off. to me this is complete control. we broke up back in july and my bf says that is was not because of his family. i do not agree because i used to be able to go along and mengle with his family but now this is a no no. i am not allowed to do anything with them. this is why i know that they are the reason that he broke up with me in july. if this was not the case then they would not have a problem with me now. i know that my bf needs to tell his family the way it is, but it is very hard for him to do this. i want to get engaged but my bf says that it is very difficult because his family does not like me. he did give me a promise ring for christmas and belive you me, they would have a cow if they knew this.i don't understand why he has to get the approval to proceed in our relationship because his kids did not get his permission when they married their spouses. my bf is very codependent and is a people pleaser and hates to tell anyone no. please tell me what you guys think. thanks
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (10 January 2008):
 Your b/f has got no balls!!!.He has allowed his life to be manipulated by his SIL. This is a tragedy. They are scared that you are after his inheritance especially the SIL who would stand to lose if you married into this family.
If you truly love him , just ignore those brats.There will be rivalry between you and his children. They should not stay in the same house.If you do that , there will be plenty of troubles.
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