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writes:I know there are so many questions about teacher/student relationships on here but i'm kinda stuck at the moment and would really appreciate some advice...I'm obsessed with my class tutor. For the past year or so he has been an incredibly important part of my life. I lost my Nan, granddad and brother in a very short space of time, and my teacher has been there from day 1, always looking out for me making sure i'm ok, and just generally being a really great mate to me. About 6 months ago I started staying back after school just to talk and we talked about our familes, hopes for the future etc. etc. and I admit it, I loved the attention he paid me, and the bond that deveoped between us, that he didn't hae with my friends. Selfish I know.In 5 months time i'm moving abroad to go to boarding school, and I just can't imagine a life without him, and this is where I would love so guidance. What do I do? Ignore this feeling and let my heart break in 5 months? Tell him? What? Please help...Thanks xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2008): I say tell him! The pain it can put you through if you are in love with him is just unbearable. I was in love and kind of still am with one of my teachers but he was moving away and I had a letter that i wrote to him telling him my feelings, but that day I didn't give it to him. Do what you think but because I never got to know if he did feel the same way I was devistated. And since your moving away I think it would be better if you told him, sometimes it's better if they know...and sometimes it's not. But you will make the right choice! Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2008): I was in a very similar situation to you. And then he told me he was leaving. I told him how I felt and haven't regretted it at all, even though nothing came of it. If one of you is leaving, there is no harm in finding out what he thought of you.
This is basically a now or never situation:
Do you want to know if he liked you?
Or do you want to wonder for the rest of your life?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2008): When youleave tell him about your feelings, or you might regret it x maybe u can stay in touch by email or something!! xx enjoy the tym u have left with him :) also im sorry about ur nan, grandad n bro xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2008): Once you leave, you should email him to keep in touch. You know nothing could ever happen until you are out of high school, so don't say anything. In a few years once you're over 18-20 years old, you could say something. If he's already involved, though, just take the friendship and be happy you have that. Friendship is much more valuable and stable than a romantic relationship. It may turn out later on that you find an interest in someone else and only want to be friends with him. You'd regret it later if you brought it up now.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (10 January 2008):
 Parting is such sweet sorrow. In life we have to move on.Friends come and go. Some leave their foot prints in our heart and others in sand .You could still contact him and talk to him through e-mail or skype.
In the mean time , just enjoy the time with him .
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