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writes:My bf's dad acts like hes his gf. Kinda hard to explain. First of all i think family is important and would never try to interfere or keep him away. Ok his dad gets butthurt if he doesnt call him like 20 times a day. My bf will call him like every hour and tell him what we do. And in this time his dad is usually mean to him. They practically sound lovey dovey on the phone like they are going out. I dont understand. We've been together 3 years and its just gotten worst since we moved to the same town. Hes 40 years old. like i said family closeness is awesome but i feel like he has two gfs. me and his dad. i try and explain to him but he thinks im crazy. Can someone help me explain? Am i even putting my point across? what should i do and is it wrong for me to feel this way, please give me some input, thank you. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni appreciate the replies. And taking a bit of both i tried to come up with a fair solution. I gave in and said fine. whatever i just dont want him calling his dad and telling him my business. Thats it. Now that he calms down on the calling him. His dad seems to come up with something is wrong calls. then when he drops what were doing and goes home theres nothing wrong. What the heck. I bout give up on this relationship anyways. Hes 41 yrs old. i thought being with an older guy would be more grown up. guess i was wrong
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni appreciate the replies. And taking a bit of both i tried to come up with a fair solution. I gave in and said fine. whatever i just dont want him calling his dad and telling him my business. Thats it. Now that he calms down on the calling him. His dad seems to come up with something is wrong calls. then when he drops what were doing and goes home theres nothing wrong. What the heck. I bout give up on this relationship anyways. Hes 41 yrs old. i thought being with an older guy would be more grown up. guess i was wrong
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reader, bambiee +, writes (21 October 2010):
yeah this is my real age and hes 40.
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (21 October 2010):
 Did you post your true age? Cause if this is your boyfriend's behavior in his twenties, that's a bit...abnormal. Family closeness IS awesome but there should be boundaries. My mother worried about me as I'm her eldest so if I'd text her a few times and assure her that I was ok. As I started dating, she would franctically call me. But now? Nope. She knows that I need a little distance and will only call if it's an emergency. Taking un-important calls during dates is a tad rude. Ask your bf if perhaps he could simply text his dad once in a while when you two are together or put his phone on vibrate-or better yet, turn it off. Tell him you admire that they're so close but you want time with him uninterupted. Figure out a system that works. But don't reproach him, this could put a wedge between you two. Simply ask in the most kind/polite way possible.
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reader, [?]BitterSweetFinale;[?] +, writes (20 October 2010):
![[?]BitterSweetFinale;[?] agony aunt](/avatars/7bb1e9ea-6c2f-43b8-a4f7-0635b7eff08c.png) It's simply cause his father wants to know if he's okay, they seem to have a close bond and are probably close. his father probably gets paranoid, and his safety may be his main priority. No it's not wrong at all, but maybe he could call his dad every couple hours, to at least inform him that you're alright and having fun.. Instead of you being aggravated over him calling constantly. Don't get yourself all up in a bunch sweetie, I'm sure your family gets like this too, it's normal. Good hopes to ya, xoxo.
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