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writes: me and my boyfriend have been together for about three years, i am really truely in love with him, but something has been making me really uneasy. When ever his best friend is around me he acts really weird,my boyfriend has noticed this as well. But the weirder thing is whenever his bestfriend comes around my hearts starts to go into over drive and i have to struggle to act normal in front of him, i have never experienced something such as this feeling before, i don't know what to do or what i am feeling, i know that to an extent i do feel attracted to my boyfriends best friend. I feel as if there is sparks and heat everywhere whenever he is around and he highly intrigues me. noone i have talked to has been able to shed light on this, i feel as if this reaction comes from almost a spiritual level. I hope someone can help me i am so confused, i can't get this person off my mind and it's driving me insane.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou so much for the advice. I am still in the same situation, but i have resolved to avoid my boys best friend as i love my boyfriend more than my need to satisfy my curiosity. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2006): If you think your falling for him it could be a sign that there is something missing in your relationship that his friend displays. I warn to be weary because you don't want to make the wrong move, if you go for his friend you could lose him forever, and if you don't go for him seeing the guy could be a pain in your rump cause you will constantly get odd feelings for the guy until you know whats going on with yourself. I suggest reviewing your relationship, finding out if there is anything you want your not getting out of it or anything that is lacking and make a effort to add that to your relationship. If that fails, you could nicely avoid the man or be friends with him maybe he will turn out to be a total jerk and turn you right off of him. Love is something that if your sure you love someone you don't want to give it up, and chances are that the other guy strikes the urge of lust, he's attractive and displays attractive qualities that are fleeting and because your taken it makes you and him being off limits that much more thrilling and lust is a thrill and once its done you can't undo the damage. I think everyone runs into lust problems because they want what they can't have. I say stick with the man you have and try and avoid the friend.
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reader, beenthere +, writes (11 February 2006):
it is quite common to think you are falling for your bfs best mate. it doesn't always mean what you think it does. often best mates have a lot in common. it could be just that he is showing you the things you see in your boyfriend but you notice it more. i had a crush on my ex's brother but i think it was because we were already drifting apart and i wanted someone with similar qualities. hope you are'nt feeling like this but if you are then try to talk to your bf and find out what is going on.
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