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writes: So here is the thing... My boyfriend and I are amazing together! We were casualy dating for about 2 years and now we are in a commited and serious relationship for 6 months. We can still talk for hours on end and have sex twice a day. We both still live w/ parents and are 20 and 21. He is perfect for me except 2 things. He's a Bum and immature. He talks about the future but doesn't do anything to start it. He droped out of school in 11th grade, no GED, and can't keep a job. Now I might be pregnant. What should I do?
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reader, bonym  +, writes (16 June 2006):
 You said this: So here is the thing... My boyfriend and I are amazing together!
Well thats just where it all goes wrong! How can you be amazing together if you are as good as saying that your fella is a loser and immature? Why are you having so much sex with a guy who is a loser and then you are saying you might be expecting a child? What advice should I give you my friend?
Well, let me say this, if you know or rather you knew what he was like why are you having sex with him, we all know that sex may lead to procreation, so why are you sleeping with him if he is so worthless? It sounds to me that you are just wirh him for the sex, and what sort of relationship can that be?
My dear, I am not being harsh, I am just trying to make you see sense, be wise, if you want the fun and sex etc, take precautions. Sot him down and ask him where does he want to go in life, perhaps having a child if you are pregnant may change him for the better because not only will be be a father by DNA, he needs to be Daddy to this child and he will have tp grow up and take responsibility. xXx
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reader, camille +, writes (16 June 2006):
 He's immature? Erm, you're both having sex twice a day without contraception? Sorry, but it looks like neither of you have the maturity! Firstly get a test, secondly consider that your boyfriend is not going to change. He's 20/21 and that's adult enough. Living at home you'd think he'd be getting a push from there. He may change but he is who he is and you've known him for long enough to know what you were getting. You can hope he'll change but you can't expect it. If you don't like these 2 things then he may not be for you. You said "perfect in every way except" not only is that a total contradiction, but no-one is perfect! You can try to encourage him and talk to him, but that's about it. (You didn't mention it but if he's a weed smoker or anything that will severely kill any motivation).
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reader, kellyO +, writes (16 June 2006):
 Hiya,it seems you like this guy but for his inability to make concrete plans for his future as you indicated. you have to talk to him and see if you can encourage him in his dreams. find out what he indeed wants to do with his life. dont push too hard but make him realise that u are trying to be supportive.i had a friend who was just like that and dropped out of school. when he finally decided to go back he thought it was too late since all his classmates including me had already finished and started working. i stood by him and now he is finishing his degree in civil engineering and already has a job. If he doesnt want to pursue his education then find out what he intends to do and encourage him.know though that this might not be easy because he has to be truly interested in go for what he wants and even you cant do everything for him regarding focusing on his dream.
Also, u have to go for a pregnancy test and find out if u are indeed pregnant. if u are then u have to talk to your boyfriend and let him know and also your family.If you arent pregnant then u might want to consider more contraceptive methods if u are going to be sexually active.
i hope i have been able to help abit. take care now and all the best.
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