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writes: MY boyfriend wants me to give him oral.... I'm a virgin and I don't know how to do it.... I'm kinda nervous about it... do I swallow or spit..? What exactly do I do? Can you get STD's? Do you use a condom? I don't know. Please help if you can !thanks in advance
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2008): i usually swallow because it gives my boyfriend a better feeling of pleasure for some bizarre reason but its up to you what you do whilst giving your partner oral all i can say is "just go with the flow".
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2008): You should really think twice before doing this for him... the key words there are "for him". A relationship is about 2 people so you shouldn't do anything you're uncomfortable with just because he wants it. Do you think think he'll leave you after he gets what he wants? Do you think he'll leave you if you don't want to do it for him in the first place? If you hesitate at all in answering those two questions, just don't do it!
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reader, thebethany  +, writes (31 March 2008):
has he ever had another girlfriend who he has been sexually active with?
if not then you dont need to worry about stds or the such.
spitting or swallowing is completely up to you, do whatever you feel comfortable with at the time, also if your worried about what to do, know this, a blow job is different for every guy, there is no right or wrong blow job, just experiment with him, he wont expect you to be perfect
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reader, MissKin  +, writes (31 March 2008):
 If ur worried about STD's - use a condom, always. And if you're using a condom there is no spit/swallow question. And if ur not using a condom and u know he's clean (which im guessing u dont if ur asking about transmitted diseases) then spitting or swallowing, it's up to you. You'll know when it comes to making the decision. you're still young and inexperienced, this is a big deal and should really only be done in a relationship where you feel comfortable and safe while doing it. I suggest thinking about if ur really ready for this step. if you are, then okay. If you're using a condom i suggest using a flavoured one or using flavoured water-based lubricant because natural flavoured condoms do NOT taste nice and this might put you off on your first time. Either way, make sure your mouth is moist and your lips are wet and so is your tongue. Never start off by just ramming it in your mouth. Get comfortable with your boyfriends penis. Kiss it, lick it, tickle it. Whatever you want to do until you're comfortable with it. Oral should always be a combination of using your hand aswell as your mouth but... Different techniques work for different people, i wish i could give you a full list of what to do but i'm not sure it's a good idea because of ur age. I'm sure other people will make their own call and decide on whether to give you full advice or not. I've given you a few hints in the right direction anyway. Remember that you shouldn't feel pressured into giving your bf oral and if you suddenly decide you want to stop - stop. Remember as well that it's not an endurance test of how long you can hold your breath. Do what makes you feel comfortable, even if it disrupts his pleasure. Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhow am i supposed to contact you if your anonymous?thanks tho ...
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2008): first make sure its something that you want to do not something hes making you do..second make sure you know what your doing before you do it.. its good to spit it out because it doesn't taste very good... you can get syphillis from doing it or some other kind of mouth disease so you should REALLY think this over.. you can use a flavored condom... any more questions you can contact me.
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