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writes:My boyfriend likes to wear skirts in the summer because he finds them more comfortable in the hot weather. I find it unbelievably embarrassing and my friends and family make fun of me about it. I told him I don't like him wearing them and he told me it's part of his identity and none of his ex's minded when he was with them, and told me I was closed minded. I know this is a really petty thing to need advice on, but I've told him I refuse to be seen with him in public if he's wearing a skirt. What can we do? Am I being really stupid?
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reader, VerticalPress  +, writes (16 August 2009):
It's so virulent of petty minded folks to fall back on psychiatric terminology attempting to repress nonconformity. That's all psychiatry and the mental "health" (social conformity) CULT is about---making everyone be cookie-cutter replicas of everyone else. Get this straight---differences of opinion are not "disorders." Seeing a man in a skirt and remarking "oh, he's cross-dressed" or "oh, he's transgendered" and "needs clinical treatment" is no different from seeing a show the content of which you dislike on a television, and saying, "we need to send for a TV repairman because we don't like that broadcast." Actually you people are a gang of blithering idiots. The mental health movement is the direct historical continuation of the medieval Inquisition in which people were burned alive and broken on the wheel for being different---for disagreeing. We are all born naked. Men are not born in pants. Putting men into pants by force then canceling the rules of "skirts only" for women God Almighty what a bunch of female hypocrites totally selfish as to freedom of dress. See Apollo Dance Troupe Tsamiko on You Tube. LOOK at the petticoats worn by Greek men. These men have nothing wrong with their "psychosexual profile," the problem is that of tiny, narrow minds who cannot understand why anyone wants to do anything creative. Want a better world? Ignore everything psychiatry says. Everything. Like "mental illness is like any other illness" oh yeah? Except if it were like any other illness, THEY could have "disorders" also---just like REAL MD's have sicknesses. Psych terminology is strategy, not fact---strategy to repress behavior of which someone disapproves.
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reader, CupidCannon +, writes (21 July 2009):
umm well what i feel is that you should let your boyfriend do whatever he feels. in the 50s i believe it was not ok for women to wear pants but nowadays women wear pants better than men! so heres my opinion on the fact. if more men were to start wearing skirts in public it would eventually become socially acceptable anywhere.
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reader, VerticalPress +, writes (12 November 2008):
Arkitect is a typical parochial thinker influenced by psychiatric slander of any social nonconformist manifestation. He feels it's tolerable for Scots to wear a kilt but any other skirt on a man is disallowed. Arkitect apparently is ignorant of the Albanians and Greeks who wear a skirt that is often compared to a ballet skirt or petticoat. I suggest he enter search terms including "fustanella" and "Evzones" to be educated that Scots are NOT---repeat NOT---the only ethnic men who wear some type of skirt as their hereditary costume---also Dervish dancers in many Arabic nations, men in several Asian countries and across the South Seas, wear skirts, and these are designed very differently than kilts. Will Arkitect tell these men they can't wear their styles because they aren't kilts? By the way, historically, men always wore skirts. Trousers were invented by people in cold climates for survival purposes but what really spread trousers around was horseback riding---pants divides the legs, just like being atop a horse. Arkitect, I also strongly suggest you look up the New York Times, May 27, 1876, page 6, editorial, "A Curious Disease," which said trousered women were suffering from "permanent mental hallucination" and should be treated "with the usual methods in use at the best conducted hospitals for the insane." Get this straight---skirts and trousers aren't sex differences because they aren't anatomical differences. It's SEXIST to deny men choices.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2008): Nothing wrong there as long as he is smartly dressed. And you are not the only one with a b/f who wears skirts. I and my boyfriend are often outdoors in the summer walking across the hills in Yorkshire or in Lake District him often wearing his favourite knee-length cargo skirt. A good shirt and hiking boots fit well with his skirt and he looks damn good and sexy on the trail :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2008): I tend to think this may be just a fad, dear. Just the other day, I saw a young fellow in my son's high school wearing a black skirt with black leggings and army boots. I have also seen it many other times, as well. If this embarrasses you, tell him that. If you can't handle it..then make a decision if you want to be with a guy who wears 'skirts'. If not, you know what to do. Go find a guy who doesn't wear skirts...plain and simple.
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reader, Arkiteck +, writes (28 January 2008):
Is it a skirt or a kilt? I know you said Skirt but are you using artistic license and exaggerating about the situation. Be honest here, if it's a kilt, and he's scottish, then that is part of his identity. Any reason other then that...and your man is a cross dresser and needs to be identified as such. I see no reason as a man, regardless of how hot he is, to wear a skirt. I'd sooner walk around in my boxers than a skirt, maybe even naked if pushed far enough. Either way, you need to get to the bottom of this post haste.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2008): Hi Hunny,
Has he anymore behaviour patterns that point to wearing womens clothing, Is this just in the summer? I understand were you are coming from I cant imagine my man wearing a skirt as shorts are a good opption to keep cool. Maybe just ask him why he prefers skirts to a pair of shorts hunny as that would be more along the male line of dress, He may like the feel he gets from wearing this, He may like to cross dress and this may be his reason for liking this, That is why I ask if you notice any other form of female clothing he prefers to wear like underwear and such, It can be distressing for a partner to understand and you may well feel this is not for you. I hope this helps a little sweetheart TAKE CARE OF YOU WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (28 January 2008):
 The Scottish men wear skirts or kilts . If he insisted on wearing one , there is nothing you can do except to leave him or not to go out with him.
You maybe the object of scorn but since he is not shy, why do you do you feel that way? He may have trans gender issues or he is a cross dresser.
It takes a very strong person to dress that way and having to face ridicule and scorn from others.
Maybe , it is just a fad . He may have feminine traits . There are males who use cosmetics or wear female undies.
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