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writes:My boyfriend always wants me to give him a bj and I don't really like doing it because I don't think I'm that great at it, so what do I do because I feel terrible not doing it for him but I don't want to stink at it, so any tips ? X
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (18 June 2012):
 Both "person12345" and "katiekate" offer some good advice, but I'll offer more from a man's point of view. I do especially like kisses and licks on the tip as kind of foreplay, then after a minute or so of that, her taking me (the penis) into her mouth. I prefer slowly, and agree that it does not have to be all the way, but deep as comfortable for her.
Occasionally, take it out, squeeze the tip a bit, kiss, lick, then take me back in. I'll agree with "person12345" that it's fairly unlikely to go wrong as long as you don't bite. Do stroke with your hand as climax nears. And then, you must decide what to do with climax. Step up the pace and go for it! Most all the women in my life always take it into the mouth and swallow. That is always special, but not absolutely necessary. Chase it with some wine or water.
The main thing, for me, has always been that she NOT quit sucking hard during my climax. I tend to shoot a large amount. Stroke with the hand and it all go in. Quitting before I'm done is the big no-no.
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reader, katiekate +, writes (18 June 2012):
 When I felt a little insecure about my performance, I looked at some amateur "porn" videos online. I watched a few, in which real women were giving their guy a blowjob...real home videos, not actual porn movies. Anyway, it helped me realize that I was doing just fine, and to just go for it and not be so unsure about it. Give it a try! I don't know anything about porn sites... I think I just googled "videos of blowjobs" or something like that. Hahaha! And the key to being good at it is confidence! And use your hand when your mouth needs a break! Good luck!
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reader, person12345 +, writes (18 June 2012):
 First off, don't try to get the whole thing (or even most of it) in your mouth. That's tiring, gaggy, and doesn't make oral sex better for the guy. Focus on the tip, lots of saliva. Circle the tip with your tongue, lick the part where the head meets the shaft on the underside, pull away and blow on it to create strange sensations, kiss it, it's pretty hard to go wrong. Just don't bite (though once you get more expertise some light teeth run along the shaft can feel good for some guys).
Most importantly, use your hands. Either twist or rub his shaft with one hand while you work on the head with your mouth. If it's not physically awkward, some guys really like it if you gently cup their testicles with your other hand, though not all so you should ask.
You're not going to stink at it because you're asking. People who suck (no pun intended) at this are the ones who don't care. You won't suck because you care and you want to do this.
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