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writes:hi just needed some advice, ive been with my boyfriend for 2 years everything is good but he has a daughter of 2 years old that he hasnt seen in over 2 years cause his baby momma took her to jamaica with her so since he hasnt seen his daughter he kind of putting pressure on me to have his baby but i think hes just trying to substitute the fact that his daughter is not here and im not ready to have a baby how can i let him now that im not ready without letting him think that i dont love him or dont want to have his baby Reply to this Question
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reader, Artistry +, writes (2 February 2009):
 Hi there, Is this your life and body or his? You seem to be the sensible one here, and thank goodness. Another question, does he send his daughters's mother money to take care of his child? Babies are a responsiblilty, when you are on the table giving birth to a livig human being, he is going to be there holding your hand, right? Or will he be somewhere getting drunk waiting for it to be over? I should not be so judgmental, as I don't really know him, maybe he will be a loving, caring father. But boyfriends can also leave can't they? You see where I am going.
First things first, do you want to be with him, for the forseeable future, are you sure you know him? Why does he want a child so quickly, let him give you those answers and see if they make sense. Women are the ones who ultimately raise the children if men are not there. It is a large responsibility, I would not allow anyone to make me go where I don't want to go. Just talk to him, and ask him to reverse roles, see what he says, be honest and let him know where you stand. I would also want to know from him, what he plans to do with his life, since he wants you to have a child, what are his intentions, that is not too much to ask, the potential father of this potential child :o).
So let's talk indepth, such a decision requires indeptness and knowledge as to what the future holds. You can always buy him a cabbage patch doll and name it after him, easier no? So be honest with yourself and him, don't hold back, he didn't, when asking about a baby, now did he? You should talk to some of the women, who have children, with husbands, and the man wants to go an do what he wants too, and leave them with the colicey child, Babies are adorable but, boy or boy. Take care and let us hear from you. Let it be your choice, not only his. By the way, I agree with everything said by the other Aunts.
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reader, Ck1  +, writes (2 February 2009):
talk to him...communication is the key tool in relationships!!goodluck x
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