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writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years and we are extremely happy. He always talks about wanting to try new things and I am usually completely up for it. But lately he has talked about having a threesome with another girl. For awhile I turned him down because I wasn't into that but I started thinking about it and I actually would love to be with another women. The weird part is that I would much rather me and a girl do it. I have always wanted to try it and I feel like having him there involved with it also would take away from my fantasy. I am not saying that I wouldn't do it with him also I would just like my first time with a woman to be just her and I. Do you think this is selfish or would he be understanding of this?
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reader, auntie donna  +, writes (7 September 2007):
 He may feel hurt that you would rather be alone with a woman than have him involved to. You should explain that you have been together so long that it would hurt you to watch him with another woman. Good luck let me know how it goes.
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reader, Skeez +, writes (4 September 2007):
 I dont think threesome are the best thing to do especially fi you are in a serious relationship for so long. If three people came together and they were single then that would be better. But no i dont think you should have a threesome..do you know why?:
Your partner....having sex with another WOMAN rigth infront of you. Now nay woman i think who really loves there boyfriend wouldnt even dream of them having intercourse with another lady..let along infront of them.
Your partner might well become very attracted to this other woman and things can lead off very badly from there on. He may start calling her more often for threesomes then it may become just him and her having sex.
Jealousy. Yes some men really liek to see woman fiddle with other woman. its sexy. its fun but when your in a relationship i think its a no no. He will probably become very regected thinking you are now prefering woman more to men and that will be a danger sign for him. You like woman now. So hes a gonna. He will probably run away with worry and embarresment. Or you two coudl start an arguement and one of you will purposly use this threesome as a reason to be angry with you...it will pop up one day.
Now even if your boyfriend suggested this to you. doesnt mean that once he gets it, he will be totally satisfied. If your ok with him having sex with another woman and kissing her then go ahead. Your choice, but expect consiquences.
Also I feel when boyfriends or girlfriends suggest a threesome, they are bored with you and want a change but not one to fully blow you off.
I think you should have deep words with your boyfriend and make sure you two are comfatable with it. If you decide to go along with it. Use condoms. and if you ever argue over this. remind yourself and him that you both decided to do it.
goodluck
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reader, sexi  +, writes (4 September 2007):
 Hi, i personally think that a threesome is very much likely to cause issues in the future for you and your bf.I think you should get rid of the idea and if after some time you are keen then you should let your bf go and then go and experience being with a girl.If you really value your current relationship then dont do it, it would cause unnecessary problems for you.
Good Luck and mail me if you wanna talk
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2007): Ask, he may be turned on by watching you two. But I don't think it be a good fantasy with your b/f watching. Threesomes are very tricky things, you or your partner may get jealous and the relationship could break apart. I wouldn't go there
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