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writes:My boyfriend doesn't treat me good. He treats his dog better than me. When we fight he calls me names, (ones i'd NEVER repeat). He doesn't sleep with me, he loses his temper and it's always my fault. He gets mad at some1 else he takes it out on me.He was addicted to stuff, and wonders y I can't trust him. He will be gone for hours and gets mad if I ask what he was doing. He pushes me aside for anything else. He's broken more promises than I can count. He ruins holidays with fights. And in NO way do I pretend i'm perfect, but I don't deserve this. I love him a lot and when it's good it's great but when it's bad it's worse. I feel mentally and emotionally drained anymore. I don't know what to do. I don't feel loved or wanted at all.. It hurts. I'm so sick of being treated like s***.. And I am not ugly. I lost weight wondering y he isnt attracted to me and i wasnt fat to begin with. He doesnt kiss me, or when he does its a peck. He holds things ive said against me. Please help. I am at a loss anymore and broken Reply to this Question
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reader, eddie85 +, writes (31 December 2011):
 It sounds like you are still going through the hurt phase. I know you still have strong feelings for your boyfriend and deep down in your heart, you want him to change so that things will work out between the two of you.
However, at some point, you have to realize that you are continually playing a broken record. Some people just aren't meant to be together. While the emotionally ties may be strong and you've probably invested some significant time into him, you have to cut your losses at some point, especially if it is causing more pain than joy.
Let's face it, there is someone out there that is going to treat you like a queen. Take a look at some of the many happy couples that you know: they waited and found the right individual. Sure, they have their issues, but they treat each other nicely and generally get along. Why wouldn't you want the same thing?
What's holding you back is the unknown. It sometimes feels safer with the devil that you know versus the devil that you don't. It's a new year coming up, why not set yourself up for success by finding someone new? You state you are attractive, so surely if you put yourself out there, men will come knocking.
So remember to treat yourself well and next time you start to think about getting back together with your ex remind yourself that you've already tried that and that it is a chapter that is closed in your life. And remind yourself that you deserve better.
Best wishes, be good to yourself, and have a happy new year.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe mistreats me a lot and I am not perfect myself.But I do a lot to show him how much I love him.Or we break up and he says he will change, but it doesn't happen for very long. We are (again) broken up. I just hate wondering what he's doing, if he texts/calls will I answer, it drives me nuts. I just feel lately there are more bad times than good. He says the meanest things before he leaves - and as hurt as I am, I even miss him now. I am so disappointed in myself for allowing myself to miss him, or that fact I have grown so accustomed to being treated this way. It feels like a constant roller coaster. I love him, but sometimes I wonder if he truly loves me. How can someone who says they love you mistreat you? Thank you for responding, I needed to vent. Can't stand the hurt anymore.. "sticks and stones can break your bones but words can break your heart". Happy New year to everyone.
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reader, shrodingerscat +, writes (31 December 2011):
 Why haven't you broken up with him yet? Seems like you have a lot of really good reasons to leave his punk @ss in the dirt!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2011): Dump him like a hot potato and take your life back. Life is too short to be wasted by sorrow and pain. You will find yourself happier if you do. He became overconfident I guess until you leave him and he sees that it’s for real. Decide once and do it. There are lots of nice guys out there. Just move on you will feel much better. Good luck
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