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female
age
36-40,
*snowy*
writes:i don't know what 2do..i gt bk wiv my ex nearly 2years ago n we've been goin out eva since n its bin great..except b4 i gt wiv him there was this guy i gt wiv at my uni..we neva went out but things jus happend- we didnt get round 2 havin sex but came close to...wel he has basically kept in touch with me every now and again. he is very flirty, lyk myself n we met up once randomly wiv a gurlfrend of mine n nuffin happend at all n so i told my boyfrend n this reli affected him i later confessed 2 flirtin wiv him a lil in the past earlier in2 our relationship i this made things reli awkard between me n him which is understandable. so i deleted all possible contact with the uni guy n wen he's txd me i delete it strait away...but he called me 2day n i told my boyfrend coz i hav nuffin 2 hide. i told him that since i love him is there annything wrong if he calls me? i mean i won't call him but yh...n he went mad it really impacted him in a bad way he says i gotta make the decision uni guy or him n i said obvoiusly him but he says but i sill want the uni guy in my life obviously...so i said i'll get a new number then but he said i am just avoidin it n thats not whole 2 deal with it! i dnt no wot 2 do coz i've got the uni guy that wants me to keep in touch with him n my actual boyfrend that wants him out! my boyfrend is also convinced the uni guy likes me but i am really in love with my current boyfriend..we are thinking about gettin married n movin in 2geva but i feel bad 2 say the uni guy get out of my life kinda thing!! wot shud i do?? [moderator's note: please, next time you ask a question, use grammar and punctiation to make your post more understandable]
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2008): First,you should talk to your boyfriend and tell him how youfeel.Tell him that you love him and that nothing will everchange that.And that you love him and only him,and no other guy will change that.Let him talk,and tell you about his insecurities and dislikes toward the guy and everythingthat's making him feel the way he does.Stay calm,both of you,even if some of the things you say to eachother may beridiculous and set you off.This is all about communication.You shouldn't have to cut people out of your life because ofsomeone else.If you like talking to him as a friend,then goahead.But if you want to make your boyfriend happy and takeaway his insecurities,then do it.Tell your friend that youare sorry and you are doing this for your boyfriend and youhave nothing against him.And that your boyfriend is not in acomfortable position to let anything progress with the friendship.I hope I helped you in some way.
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