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writes:My boyfriend has a friend ( girl ) kinda like a best friend .. that i think is way to friendly with him.I get so jealous. I havent even met this girl yet, and i hate her already. She has a weird sense of humor that i dont get. And like i said.. way to friendly. Sending texts to him like " I've found a loop hole, i can fall asleep in your arms while we cuddle. "Seriously ? thats okay ?So i told him to tell her she needs to stop. He did but he doesnt think its a big deal to cuddle with friends.Do you think hes right ? Do you think im over reacting ?
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (18 June 2012):
 If it makes his girlfriend (you) uncomfortable then it's not okay for him to cuddle with anyone but you. End of sentence. He seems to be quite interested in juggling two women at the same time, one who poses to be a "friend" and is apparently a girl who will take whatever he gives her and you, whom he says is his girlfriend. His behavior is very suspicious.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (17 June 2012):
 You're not overreacting, that sounds way over the line to me. Cuddling is very intimate.
The important thing here is that your boyfriend respected your opinions. You won't always agree on things, and that's OK. It's important that when you don't always agree you can come to solutions that make you both comfortable.
It's very easy to be in a relationship when you agree on everything, but the fact that he was so flexible even when he didn't agree, that's a good sign.
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reader, curious1987 +, writes (17 June 2012):
 Its okay to hug your friends of the opposite sex, i do all the time. but not okay to cuddle, snuggle or spoon with a friend id one of those ppl arw involves with someone else. i too would be angry and upser. explain to ur bf that a quick hug ia okay, but not cuddling. xx
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reader, VSAddict +, writes (17 June 2012):
 It's not ok, or at least you don't think so, and that's a problem. You're not overreacting. Ask him why he thinks it's ok, and then discuss with him why you're uncomfortable with him doing it. If he respects you, he will stop. If he doesn't, then you need to reconsider your relationship because this problem will get bigger if you're not on the same page.
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reader, here-to-hear  +, writes (17 June 2012):
Hugging friends is ok, but there is a big difference between a quick hug and a long cuddle.
For me cuddling is a very intimate thing and I would be very angry with my boyfriend if he was cuddling with other women.
Be grateful that your boyfriend has respected how you feel even though he doesn't share the same views.
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