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writes:Can someone please help me I dont understand what is going on. My b/f was sweet nice n down to earth. Now he talks about himself n 3rd person. Every single person we see on the street he makes fun of for some reason. He tells me I'm chuby, have a crappy job, wont amount to anything without him. Also, my family dont want me, I'm a bad mom. I could go on but the rest is very nasty. Also, he complains that we are not intimate anymore.I work nights but when I'm off he sits in the living room watching T.V.We are 21 and he never wants to do anything but watch dang movies.If anyone text's me he wants to know who is it. Somehow he always makes me like I'm nothing just sent here to be his servant. Then the next day he says he loves me n wants me.I cant lie it shortens the flame of hurt when he tells me that. I love him so much and want things to work out.Why is he like this now? Has anyone had this happen to them?
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reader, drCthulhu  +, writes (13 June 2008):
It is not typical for 21 year olds to talk to or about themselves in the second/third person. Children can sometimes have difficulty with this (as well as with learning the difference between "you" and "me"), however, usually when these problems occur, they are short-term and temporary. It is more common (and developmentally appropriate) for children to have trouble with pronouns ("Me did it.")
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2008): Sounds like a pimp move to me! Get away from this dude. It starts with lowering your self esteem and then isolating you from your family and friends and then making you feel that your job has no future.....then he makes himself seem like the only one who is there for you and make you dependant on him. GET FAR FAR AWAY!BadVoiceWash.DC
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2008): Slow down there kid.
Lets see this guy is an asshole to you the majority of the time, and he is the same way to strangers. He treats you like a slave sent to his disposal. Doesn't like that you might have friends he doesn't know about, as evidence by his Paranoia regarding the SMSing.
Then he manipulates your feelings by pulling the old love card, and trying guilt you into staying by blaming the lack of intimacy on you?
Then he critiques your mothering skills, and tries to forge it into you that your family don't want you?
You are 21. You are old enough to know that this prick is not a nice person. Not nice at all. He is infact an dickhole and you should rid him out of your life at all costs.
Why on Earth would you put up with this shit? I mean a servant? What is this, the dark ages?
You need to stand up for yourself and throw this jack-hole where he belongs... in the gutter.
Hope this helps.
Flynn 24
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